Men Tips

posted by BuddyF on Jan 7

Think about how you normally act in social situations where women are around guys. Do you think your body language is working for you or against you? I myself have spent years, quietly crushing on female friends yet never being able to let them know how I felt. I have had friends tell me that they had found their soul mate the only problem being that they lacked the confidence to let the girl know, failing too even ask her out.

There are really only two types of guys when it comes to dating: winners and losers. Winners are guys who know how to use body language, flirt, make eye contact, smile, laugh and act natural around women. The losers on the other side just seem to stumble around, having no clue what moves to make.

I think a fair comparison to dating is riding a motorcycle. It really has no importance how knowledgeable you are about how the bike works, or how much money you spend, even how good of a rider you happen too be. If you do not wear a helmet, you are looking forward to a fatal crash straight ahead. What is the casualty ahead? Your dating life!

Noticing Body Language Help is needed

I cannot stress enough the importance of using the right body language to have women see you as potential mates and lovers. If any of the following applies to you guys you need a little guidance with using body language correctly:

- You feel too insecure to make eye contact with women.

- You often approach women without first making eye contact and rejections are normal for you.

- You never use good posture when out around women, leaning against a wall, slumping and looking down at the ground to avoid attention.

- You tend to put buffers up between you and a woman you find hot, such as holding a drink at eye level or by hiding out in a shady corner of a bar.

- You stand with your head down, or walk looking straight ahead, too nervous to make eye contact.

- You have a walk that is too fast or too slow and your walk gets worse when you feel the gaze of an attractive woman.

Ways to Improve Body Language

Taking away the pressure when dating is a great way for shy guys to feel relaxed and enjoy the experience. If you are the type of guy who is never comfortable in a crowded room with so many attractive women, take yourself out of that element. There are lots of other places guys can go to hit on attractive women, in fact shy guys can have better success at a book store, club meeting or local sporting event. Even online meetings work great for getting you used to communicating around women.

You have probably heard the expression that practice makes perfect a thousand times, and it also applies to using body language. You did not become a success at your job without having a little knowledge and to be a success at dating a little preparation is helpful.

Your bathroom or bedroom mirror is a great stress free area for running through how you can meet and connect with women you find attractive. Run through body language signals you normally use to “see” how they come off and remember to flirt and smile to see the “total package” the way women do.

Pay attention to your stance, how you use your hands and the movements of your neck and head as you speak to a girl. Even the expressions that come across your face as you talk play a part in initial attraction. Pay attention to what works and what needs to be fixed. Most guys tend to over exaggerate with their hands, neck and head, try to keep these movements to a minimum. As for your expressions, they are an important part of non-verbal body language. You do not want fear, nerves, shyness or anxiety flashing across your face when you approach a woman. Try to appear calm and only sexual desire and humor in your face.

Another great way of using body language as a prelude to approaching a woman is to try to take up space. While looking in the mirror pay attention to how you normally hold yourself or act. Shy guys feel the need to shrink back, to isolate themselves and become invisible. Confident guys on the other hand are experts at understanding body language, they tend to overwhelm a room and take up extra space. Just by the way a confident guy carries himself a girl becomes aware of him and turns to meet his eye.

Buddy Franklin is a dating advice guru. He recommends: Body Languages, Body Language Sexual, Body Language