Men Tips

posted by BuddyF on Jan 7

Dating a woman is a lot like hunting. Before heading out into the woods to hunt you would spend some time beforehand studying your target. Learning about your targets natural habitats, what spooks them and even what bait to use to bag your target. Dating women is no different from this. To understand and use body language attraction you have to get your hands a little dirty and understand what role the dominant male is supposed to play.

Find Your Prey

Women are your target guys, though it might seem like an insulting way of describing women, no offence is meant. Calling women your target is simply another way of expressing the object you desire and want. Many guys tend to take a few seconds looking at a woman making eye contact and rushing right in like a bull in a china shop. This approach will just scare your target away and ensure she stays far away from you.

You will have much better success by studying the body language attraction signs that women give off. If you make eye contact and a woman smiles at you, holds the contact for a few extra seconds, looks down and away then she is interested. If she notices you looking rolls her eyes, frowns, looks away quickly and turns her body so you lose eye contact with her, the lady is just not interested in dating you.

Beyond the simple basic signs women give off their are many more cues they use to indicate interest in men. When a woman meets your eyes and preens her hair, or decides to cross or uncross her legs its one of the biggest signals that she is anxious for you to approach her. If she feels the need to touch her bare skin or adjust her bra strap as you talk you have gotten through to her, and she is without a doubt thinking of getting hot and sweaty with you.

Bait the Hook

Fisherman use worms to catch a fish because they know fish desire to eat worms. If you want to make use of body language attraction, you have to understand what attracts women. Your body language also involves your looks and sense of style, though even the most average looking guy can get the hottest woman in the room, guys who show nervousness and inability to be aggressive will not get very far.

In men, aggressive behaviors and body language are attractive to women. I do not mean guys who get into fights at bars and grab on a woman to get attention. Acceptable aggressiveness in man can be shown by standing up instead of leaning back and showing bad posture. It also can be shown in the vibe a guy gives off. A woman can always spot a guy who is nervous; he is sweaty, hands folded with his head down like a turtle trying to go back into his shell. If the guy had simply elongated his spine, kept his head up, allowed his eyes to look around the room and relaxed more women would see him as attractive.

Bag Your Prey

You have successfully read the signs of a woman’s body language attraction and baited the hook so you can approach her, now is the time to seal the deal! Once you engage a woman in conversation, your goal is to end up with her phone number or get her to make out and have sex with you tonight. Keep the pressure on, so to speak by continuing to use body language signals while you speak with her.

Don’t get too close just yet, this is still not a done deal if you come on too strong or move a little faster than the woman is ready for she can withdraw and leave you hanging. While you talk and laugh with her, keep up the dominant male body language, by keeping your shoulders back. As the conversation gets a little intense lean into her space a little bit, if she moves back you are going too fast, if she just smiles or keeps talking you’re on the right track.

The best way to learn what works in body language attraction is to give yourself a trial run, through you can just go into a bar and try these techniques guys also have more of a rejection rate in these environments. For guys who don’t have a lot of experience dating or have just started dating again after divorce or becoming a widower find an environment with less women to practice on, parks and clubs are great practice areas.

Buddy Franklin is a dating advice guru. He recommends: Body Language Attraction , Flirting Body Language, Understanding Body Language