Men Tips

posted by infomktjv on Sep 9

So many of us really don’t know how to flirt. We think we do, but we end up just looking a little silly, being too forward, or turning her off with our inept flirting skills. Thus, I have compiled a pretty basic guideline to help the flirtatiously challenged reach a new level of flirting prowess.

Never underestimate the power of a meaningful compliment. Don’t lay it on too think and there is no need to do things like add little winks or sound effects. Keep it real and keep it honest but let her know that you appreciate certain things about her. If you have multiple compliments, spread them out and let her hear them throughout a period of time. Don’t just sit there and lay it on. It becomes insincere this way.

Always remember that you are a really awesome guy. And since you really are awesome you have the ability to make others around you feel good. Gather up your energy and really go with it. You’re out there having fun, talking to people, and the higher your energy level is the more likely you are to draw others in. Energy doesn’t equate being loud, but being really happy and enjoying it.

Don’t forget that your body language speaks volumes for you. So while you are busy complimenting and being enthusiastic, remember to look people in the eye, stand or sit in a relaxed and open position, and let things flow naturally. Looking her in the eye gives her a sense of human contact as well as makes a powerful impression.

Address her by her name. And do it often throughout the conversation, where it is appropriate. If you make too obvious that you are focusing on using her name, it feels fake. But there will be times when it is appropriate to use her name, even if you are speaking in front of her to someone else. If you’re at the bar and you order her a drink, use her name not just the reference of “her” or “she.” If you like her name, let her know. Tell her why. But don’t forget it.

Asking questions is a good way to involve flirting while incorporating the basic principles of conversation. Don’t just ask her general questions, but ask her clarifying questions as well. This lets her know that not only are you interested in her, but you are really listening to her and you are making a solid attempt to understand. While she is taking a breath in the story, ask her to clarify something from a moment ago. Really listen so that you are able to ask appropriate questions. The more you show interest in her, the easier the conversation will flow. When she asks you questions as well, give her complete answers but don’t forget that you are being interested in her. Your personal stories can wait until another time.

You want to share enough of your own experiences to show her that you are part of the human club as well as show the ability to relate. When you talk, make eye contact, don’t shy away, and remember to talk with absolute confidence about who you are, even if you are sharing a story about that potty accident you had when you were six. Talk to her as though she is truly the only person in the room and she will feel like you believe she is the only person in the room. This is a very flattering position to be in. Be lavish with your attention and your praise, but really listen. She is most likely telling you important fears and other feelings which deserve not to be brushed off. If you are really listening then you will be able to get to the heart of who she is in a short period of time.

Don’t be afraid to lower your voice and get close for personal or intimate moments of sharing. Get close enough and speak low enough that she has to almost touch you, like whispering in her ear without actually touching her hair, but leave just enough to the imagination that she starts to want your touch. Part of flirting is offering up a little without giving away the whole pie. Let her imagine what is would be like for the first physical contact and let her keep wondering no matter how much you would like to get closer.

Don’t overstay your welcome. Get up and go find other friends or even pause and place your hand on another woman’s shoulder just long enough to reach across the bar for something. When you leave, make sure she isn’t ready for you to leave. If she wants more then you can pretty much be guaranteed she will let you know. If you get her number, then go be busy elsewhere or actually leave the establishment. Letting her wonder and think builds you up in her mind and make her want you more. Don’t call the next day, but wait another day or two before you give her a call.

The more you flirt and the more you adopt these basic principles the easier the process will become. You are really just trying to have fun and leave someone feeling good about themselves. Flirting can be harmless and it can be intriguing. Let her feel good about her interaction with you and it won’t be long before she would like more.

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posted by infomktjv on Sep 9

Women who are in long term relationships and marriages tend to hear about how they have changed since they first got together with their guy. Well, of course things have changed. She was looking for a guy who would want her for who she was and then found him. If you weren’t able to support the growth of women, in her mind, then why were you out there looking for anything longer than a two weeks fling? Women change because they consider it growing. And we have benefited from that growth.

When women were only expected to stay home, cook, clean, and raise the kids, women were often unhappy and they often wanted more. We made them dependant upon us and then resented the fact that we felt we didn’t have enough options in our life. As women changed, our lives improved. Now we no longer have to bear the sole responsibility for a family’s financial wellbeing and we don’t have to be totally independent and emotionless either. We still have a nurturer in the house who spends a great deal of her time taking care of those around her while spending very little time taking care of herself, especially after the kids are born.

Yet we still want to complain because she changed after we decided to get married or to invite them into our lives for the long haul. Why? Men are as confused as ever about what they are really supposed to be doing in their relationships. Women are trying to grow and change and men are trying to keep everything static and secure. What happens when a woman lands a job that pays more than ours? We resent it. What happens when they want to stay at home and we are now completely responsible for providing for the family? We resent it? What happens when we are in danger of losing our jobs and we need to ask them to help support us? We resent it. If we are so busy resenting their life and their choices and the way they adopt to change as a positive goal oriented task, the more we dig ourselves our own resentful hole.

We look at women with so many different lenses that they often don’t know how to fulfill the roles that we lay on them. We expect them to stay in their relationships and work it out and yet we find that we are so willing to toy with the theory of the married woman affair. It is exciting to us and then we are so surprised when they want more because they were never really happy in their relationship to begin with. Now what we thought was just a little excursion is turning into pressure for a lifetime commitment. Look before you leap or you might end up with two black eyes.

Half the time we don’t even really know what we want from women and then we simply accept that what they want is better than not knowing. So we go with it. We don’t always think it through and we don’t always stop to consider their motives. They seem to be totally into us and we discard the fact that they are financially broke and that they don’t have a father for their kid and they are drowning in their financial mess. We are a ticket out and we never see it coming because we never looked. Women are only doing what they were taught. We aren’t doing anything because we don’t think beyond what we see. Women are much more complex than men. We like things just spelled out for us so that we can meet whatever the expectation might be. Women are not taught that spelling it out leads them into a better life and that they will be alone forever if they approach us that way. How confusing!

Here’s the positive twist. Both men and women are actually looking for the same thing, they are just going about it in totally different ways that the signals just keep getting crossed. We both want someone who loves us. We both want growth and excitement in our lives. We both want to feel as though our lives are a fabulous adventure and that we have the capacity to keep it up. We both want respect and an equal partnership. We both want to be nurtured, even if that happens in different ways. And we both want to live in an honest and devoted relationship.

Knowing that we are all going after the same things makes it easier to determine what really works for each of us. If we want to go after a woman because she looks like she has it all together and we find out that she doesn’t, does that mean that we chose wrong? No. It means that she is very good at keeping the balls she is juggling in the air and they are likely to let them drop a little when they first get involved. Women should change. So should we. When we are changing we are growing. Growing means that we are learning and structuring our lives to be more successful. All we really have to do is enjoy the ride and participate fully.

If you have found my article interesting, I have come across a site which is at the moment giving away a massive free Book titled Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women. I have personally found this one of the best books on the subject of Dating and Relationships and I highly recommend you read it. It’s a must read.
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posted by infomktjv on Sep 9

Being involved with someone who is already with someone can be enticing to some guys, if you like sharing. For the lot of us, we simply aren’t into trying to convince someone to give us just a little bit of themselves. It is more self respecting and self fulfilling to have a woman interested in you and be honest with you.

If she’s lying to her husband or boyfriend about you, then what is she lying to you about? While some guys completely get off on the idea that they can manipulate a married woman into bed with him, they are really missing the point of the entire operation. She is choosing to go in that direction and when she gets caught, she will be more than happy to blame you for the whole entire shenanigans.

Sometimes it can be a boost to your man-hood’s esteem to watch a married or involved woman work you over with her eyes and watch her flirt with you. Once that happens, though, the thrill is really gone. It takes a lot of time and understanding in order to let her call all the shots, the ones that she’s comfortable with and the ones she thinks she can get away with. Guys think that they are manipulating a woman into their bedroom, but really it’s the other way around. You have to wait for her to tell you she can get away and you have to wait for her to tell you where to meet her and when to call and in some cases what to eat-never eat garlic before seeing another man’s interest.

Don’t forget that there will be a time when she will get caught. That just gets downright messy. Because she’s a woman, society has already brandished her behavior. But because you are the guy, now you are most likely going to have to take more heat than anyone. While you’re probably not risking anything more than your reputation, you are risking your reputation. And that can get nasty.

There a lot of woman out there who are willing to give you their time and attention and most of all their honesty. Pulling a woman away from her family isn’t being manly. You might have fun with it, but what are you left with in the end? Your attraction to each other is based on a thrill, so how can you really expect her to want to successfully build a relationship with you. Alternatively, why would you want to? She just cheated on someone. Do you really think it’s such a stretch for her to cheat on you? Building a relationship based on a lie is never a good idea.

If you have found my article interesting, I have come across a site which is at the moment giving away a massive free Book titled Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women. I have personally found this one of the best books on the subject of Dating and Relationships and I highly recommend you read it. It’s a must read.
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posted by infomktjv on Sep 9

“I can’t meet a really great woman. I am too fat.” “I am not able to talk to women like that because I just can’t get my act together.” “I am not rich enough to offer her anything.”
Every time we present ourselves with our own self enhanced obstacle we are limiting our ability to get out there and be part of functioning society, which includes the ability to talk to women and be interesting. So many men are so willing to complain and claim the impossible task ahead, but they make no action to change their so called road block.

In the end, the only person that they have really affected is them and the only person who is even aware of why is them. So why go down that road? If there is something that you feel is either standing in your way or that impedes your confidence then change it.

We are not victims of circumstance. In fact, we are in complete control of our circumstances and we can make choices and decisions that either enhance our current circumstance or create a new foundation for a better one. If you feel your weight interferes with your confidence, don’t eat an entire bag of chips. Change you actions to solve the problem.

“But if I have to lose weight to find a great woman, then I am changing who I am and not looking for acceptance.”

You can’t have it both ways. It either interferes with your ability to meet women or it doesn’t. If you feel that there is something that turns women off, the turn off is coming from you. I have known plenty of heavy guys who find women because they feel they are great people and don’t consider their weight to be any kind of influencing factor.

It’s not just limited to weight. If you lack self confidence, for any reason at all, then get out there and change your behavior in order to find the woman that you want to be with. Every time you convince yourself that you can’t because of some self limiting factor, you are choosing to feel as though you are incapable. If you choose this, then don’t complain. We all have things about ourselves that we aren’t really happy with. We all have a choice in how we opt to handle it. We can blame it for our aloneness, we can change it, or we can accept that it is part of what makes us who we are and put it out there with the rest of us when we are meeting potential women companions.

Start replacing your bad habits that increase your sense of anxiety about your road blocks. Whether that includes exercising more, finding others who have a similar or same problem and picking their brain about overcoming your shortcomings, or use it as part of your attributes instead of using it as a road block.

I once knew a guy who had a pretty significant stutter. For the longest time he felt he couldn’t land a wife because he stuttered. Eventually he learned that if he told women that he stuttered when he was around completely beautiful women who made him totally crazy in love. Of course his wife figured out that he was working on his stutter and that she was not at all part of whether he stuttered or not, but he used it so endearingly that he landed not only a wife, but a beautiful, gifted, successful wife who loves him in ways that some of us only dream of.

If you believe that women will be turned off by something about you, you are guaranteeing that they will be. If you learn to really accept yourself and not predetermine how other people are going to feel, then you now have a gift instead of a curse. You have just become more attractive and more outgoing because you put it out there in a totally accepting manner. For most women, this is really very attractive and it causes them to look past whatever one of the multitudes of shortcomings you decided to hamper yourself with.

You get to decide what is standing in your way. Guys who decide that they are fabulous and are truly interested in meeting women and knowing them and understanding them tend to have great success in the dating field even with all of their flaws and imperfections. This is the option you get to choose when you get fed up with not being satisfied with what you have to work with. The size of your “physical attributes” is not a determining factor for how you can make a woman feel in your presence. Only you can stand in your way.

If you have found my article interesting, I have come across a site which is at the moment giving away a massive free Book titled Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women. I have personally found this one of the best books on the subject of Dating and Relationships and I highly recommend you read it. It’s a must read.
Download it from;
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posted by infomktjv on Sep 9

When you first come out of the starting gate a lot of guys go charging ahead like they have something to prove. Whether they are trying to prove something to themselves or prove something to the world around them, their gusto is incredible and they nearly trample over women as they make their way down their list. Of course, after getting shot down a number of times they eventually decide that maybe they need to reexamine their methodology for a minute.

If you’re developing a new lifestyle or you are just stepping into the dating game after being out of it for awhile, then you really need to tone down your enthusiasm at least enough to make sure that you are getting the steps down. Slowing down and starting with baby steps builds confidence. Slowing down and maximizing the potential for each step to be a new opportunity for growth and learning puts your new habits in position to be permanently adopted.

When you were a kid you had to learn the times tables. If you reviewed your list at lightening speed and put it away and went on about your business, you didn’t really get it to stick in your head and you were unprepared when it was time for the quiz. If you went a little slower and you made sure you really got each number down before moving on, you aced the quiz. This applies to learning to date differently as well. Slow it down, internalize it, and pass milestone markers without fault. Jump ahead and try to leap before you look and chances are pretty good that you are going to end up falling flat.

Never underestimate the value in practicing the small skills. These skills are usually the ones that make the most difference. If you learn to read her body language and to touch her right in the beginning, and if you learn how to really listen and compliment her well, then if you stumble around while asking her for a date she is likely to pick up that slack for you. The success is in the details. Skipping all of the little things and going straight for her number isn’t likely to work out so well.

Success has nothing to do with how many times you approach a woman feeling good about yourself and believing that you can do it. Success has everything to do with the type of woman you meet, how well it goes, and how long she is interested in you. Anyone can land a one night stand if they want it. But not everyone can develop a good relationship from the beginning with a woman that they pick out of a social situation. That’s why internet dating has become so popular. People aren’t using skill to get what they want so they turn to an anonymous source first.

If you have found my article interesting, I have come across a site which is at the moment giving away a massive free Book titled Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women. I have personally found this one of the best books on the subject of Dating and Relationships and I highly recommend you read it. It’s a must read.
Download it from;
www.secrets2datingsuccess.com