Men Tips

posted by infomktjv on Sep 9

You can spend your time studying the art behind reading body language and using your own to communicate and you can study the finer arts of figuring out how to approach a woman. But if you never really learn to converse, you aren’t likely to get any closer than enjoying a good view from a distance.

No matter how attractive you might be or how suave or how confident, if you can’t speak to a woman then you aren’t going to get a woman. It is pretty simple. I can’t tell you often a woman gives a guy a chance to pick her up only to come back with, “Well, he’s cute enough but he hasn’t learned how to speak.”

Learning to hold and carry a conversation is only half the battle. The most difficult part of learning to converse is starting a conversation. If you can’t walk up to a woman and speak to her, you will never get to talk about all the great topics you have spent your lonely nights coming up with. So let’s get into starting a conversation first.

When you want to start a conversation with a woman that you have never met before, you have to approach her with confidence and warmth. Smile a lot, like you mean it, and don’t be afraid of the things she might say. If you spend you time worrying about the ways she might turn you down or hurt you, then you aren’t going to gather up the nerve to really talk to her in the first place. You want to be genuine but you can only be genuine when you aren’t sweating bullets and praying that your deodorant holds out.

Starting your conversation should be simple. Say hi and work in a sweet and genuine compliment that really shows that you are paying attention to the world around you. Whether you go for a physical attribute or you go into something a little deeper, don’t lay it on too thick and don’t stand there with a bunch of nervous rambling.

Remember that all you’re doing is making someone’s day or night a little bit better by pointing out to them that they are somehow attractive to you. It’s a gift. It’s a really nice gift. And there isn’t anything to be worked about since for the first ten to fifteen seconds, that is your only purpose for opening your mouth.

Celebrate something. It doesn’t have to be an occasion that everyone celebrates, but find a reason to be celebrating. If it’s your tenth anniversary out of the nuthouse, you might want to find something more positive. But celebrating something mundane is often a great way to engage a women into conversation with you as well as a great opener to show her that you think she is awesome.

Celebrate a night of beautiful women or celebrate the one year anniversary of bringing your dog home or celebrate a decision you made that will move you ahead in life. But celebrating is contagious and it eases the topic of conversation right into an easy place for you. After all, you are the one that picked what you’re celebrating so you are the one who also picked the topic of conversation by default. Avoid sad or negative topics, like the death of your pet. While you might gain a few sympathy points, sympathy points don’t count much toward anything real.

When you get a conversation started, it’s important not to let long periods of silence hang in the air. It’s really uncomfortable for everyone. So during your time at home, sort of write down a long list of possible topic transitioning statements. They don’t have to be cute or funny or sexy or sweet, just a few words that buy you a little time while you and she are trying to come up with the next conversation piece. Writing them down does not indicate that you are going to bring them with you, it is just an exercise to get them into your head and to review from time to time.

Some of the best ones are those which cause her to focus on something other than you without complaining or putting someone down. Glancing over at someone who is dressed to totally stand out and comment without judgment, “Well, that’s unique,” or “interesting.” Diverting her attention for a few seconds gives you a chance to come up with a topic and also gives her the chance to respond with her own thoughts.

During your conversation you have to do as much listening as you do responding. Preferably more listening than responding, but I am counting you thinking time as part of your response. Do not spend the whole time thinking about what to say next. If you’re concentrating too hard on that then you won’t be listening to the information she is giving you. If you really take the time to listen, you will know how to respond.

The more relaxed you are when having a conversation the better the conversation will flow. The more you work yourself up about having a good conversation the more likely it will be that the conversation will not go so well. So step back from yourself, listen closely, and remember that if she is interested in you at all, she will be a little nervous too and will be forgiving of small mistakes as long as you are being genuine. Take the time to smile, relax, and have a good time and so will she.

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posted by infomktjv on Sep 9

Relationships come in all kinds of packages. You can go for mini-relationships that end after you get her into bed or you can go for the whole nine yards. Either way, you can’t just wander around out there in the world hoping for the right woman to fall into your lap. You have to know why you are out there in the first place and recognize the potential relationship for what it is..potential.

A lot of guys think that if they are looking for a brief interlude of sexual passion that they can skip the whole relationship part of the deal. This is why they are still looking. No matter how brief the encounter, a relationship is built for the period of time that the two of you are together, even if it ends up being only a few short hours. There is no magical formula that presents a shortcut. If you want to get the relationship you want, then you have to know what it is you are looking for.

Any time we set a goal in our life, we have to at least understand what that goal is and have a basic outline of how we are going to go about getting there. We can’t lie on the couch all day and proclaim we want a lot of money. If we wanted a lot of money we wouldn’t be lounging around without any direction in our lives. When we want something, we either act on it or we change our wants. Because wanting something without action is just too frustrating.

Let’s go for gold here and say that you are looking for someone to share the rest of your life with. That’s a pretty ambitious goal to accomplish on a Tuesday night. Just like other goals, we have to chunk it down into reasonable steps. This means that we start with the basics, like I want to meet women with potential. We are going to assume that you know what that potential looks like.

If you don’t then you need to figure it out otherwise you won’t know if you are wasting your time. Once we know that we want a woman with potential, we need to go find a few women that look like good prospects and engage their interests. If we can’t get them interested, we certainly aren’t going to figure out what kind of potential they have.

Once we understand how to get women talking and start evaluating our options, we either have a woman or two (or three or four!) to date and learn about to help out the process of narrowing the field. When we have a few women on the burner at a time, we usually have to make up our minds pretty quickly. Women usually aren’t into sharing. In fact, most women believe in a lot of monogamy from early in the relationship. This might not be fair, but long gone are the days of dating and sleeping around. You will find a handful of women who are perfectly fine with this view, but after awhile they are going to start forcing you to choose.

The process you build is absolutely going to be reflected back at you. My buddy Jason used to do what he called “speed shopping for a wife.” His ultimate goal was to get married and he felt that the more women he dated and screwed at once the faster he was going to find what he was looking for. His reputation began to precede him and the women he picked up already knew that his behavior was classic “player” material. The problem was he found the woman that he wanted and he dumped all his other girls. But she knew of his past behavior and didn’t really believe in his proclaimed commitment and within three days she was with another guy assuming that there was no double standard.

Jason’s heart was broken and he decided that women were untrustworthy despite the fact that he had been doing the same thing for years. What you put out there will be reflected back, usually because it is believed that you totally approve of the behavior since you were doing it yourself.

Part of your process is knowing that you are capable of making the decisions you need to without hurting anyone (including you) along the way. If you aren’t going to be keen on knowing that your pick of the litter is out sleeping with someone else, then you really ought to check your signals from time to time. You can’t expect everyone to respond the way you want them to unless you are up front about your expectations, including double standards.

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posted by infomktjv on Sep 9

Growing is not an easy task and learning the fine art of understanding women is not an easy task. During the course of both, you are going to have to look at your behavior, actions, and personal appearance pretty hard. Yet how you look at these things can determine whether or not you are going to be successful with women.

When you look seriously at yourself, you might decide that you aren’t in the best shape of your life to get a woman. No big deal. What can you change immediately and what can’t you? Our perceptions shape everything we think and feel. So if we think that the only way to get a woman is to lie to her we aren’t going to be very successful in keeping her. Where do we find the positive truth in a negative aspect?

Negativity is only negativity when we want it to be. Let’s say you have a small penis and you decide that you want to date a woman that you already know has seen more than just one or two penises in her lifetime. What is your truth? Do you have a small penis or do you have an excellent little penis? The way you perceive your “shortcoming” is going to determine whether or not it is an issue.

The process of growing and learning is also a process of uncovering the lies we tell ourselves. We can be awesome liars to ourselves. In fact, we do it so often and regularly that end up doing it without even realizing it. Before you know it we are pushing our reality down and we are building relationship after relationship on a premise of lies. Getting real with you first allows you to make the necessary adjustments in your attitudes and behaviors that are more conducive to meeting great women.

Everything we ultimately believe about ourselves is something we communicate to the women we meet. If we believe we aren’t worthy of their attention, we communicate that just as easily as when we communicate that they are not worthy of ours. Not one human being on the planet is really issue free, but there are plenty of men who learn to view their issues as simple parts of them that are still valuable even if they aren’t perfect. When you look at yourself either physically or emotionally, you can start to develop healthier attitudes about you and what you’re all about in a relatively short period of time. You just have to start believing in new ideas about you.

Part of believing new ideas about you starts with understanding why we think it’s a big deal. Having a small penis doesn’t have to be a big deal. It is only a big deal if you believe that you can’t use it to satisfy women. It’s only a big deal if you believe it makes a statement about who you are or what you are capable of.

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posted by infomktjv on Sep 9

Why do guys who are simply not funny believe that telling a bad joke as a pick up line is any more effective than the simple one liners of the seventies? If you are not funny, do not use a joke to get a woman interested in you. You come off looking dull and pretentious. Instead, find a little something interesting in your environment and go for insight, which can be humorous, or go for plain and rich all out compliments and old school flirting. Do not go for humor when it just isn’t funny.

Humor is a great way to start off a new conversation with a woman. When a woman is engaged in laughter, she can’t be simultaneously engaged in being closed off and defensive. The human mind can’t hold both together like that. So if you are an actually funny individual, humor might work for you. But make sure you’re really funny as well as believing that you’re funny. There is a difference between the two and the difference is monumental.

You can use humor in a host of situations that can get women interested in you or at least interested in a little more of that refreshing burst of laughter you just brought into her life. While it is very true that the more intelligent the woman is the more sophisticated the joke has to be (and the harder it is to get smart girls laughing) do not go for long involved jokes that require a mountain of set up. You don’t have a lot of time. You don’t want to give her the time to start thinking, “oh my God, this loser is about to tell me a joke but her can’t find the punch line.”

Think of humor like a laughter seeking missile. You need to drop it quick and hard and check out the response. Sometimes a woman just doesn’t want to give a guy the satisfaction of successfully making her laugh right away. So drop it, watch for some sort of subtle reaction, drop a second one if you’re getting a lot of resistance, and then claim that you’re all tapped out and so a simple introduction (complete with a compliment) will just have to suffice. If you aren’t being met with a great deal of encouragement, then move forward and go find another woman with a better sense of humor. If you are striking out all over the place, check with someone who will be really honest with you because it might just be that you’re not funny.

There is noting wrong with not being terribly funny. Some guys just aren’t. So if you’re not, own up to it and move on because when you’re trying to pretend too hard you are just out there in the world turning people off. Find something that works more to your style and start experiencing success. For those who can use humor, it’s a great avenue. For those who can’t it will simply hold you back.

If you are marginally funny but definitely need a little help in getting things together in the humor department, grab a few joke books and start learning what makes a funny joke. Practice jokes with people you know and who will tell you the truth at first. Then practice telling a few jokes with people you don’t know but aren’t interested in dating. People like the attendant at the gas station or the waiter at lunch could all use a little good humor from their customers and can give you honest immediate feedback. Once you are sure that you are starting to get a higher than average return of smiles, giggles, and guffaws, then take your jokes to the ladies and see what happens. It is not a bad idea to use a rotation of five to seven jokes at a time during your practice stage, that way you really know them and you aren’t likely to mess them up but you have enough of a selection to pull from.

Jokes can be a great way to introduce yourself to women. If you can deliver them well with a sense of sophistication and a tone of self awareness, women really like funny guys. Funny guys are often the genuine article prize for women these days. Too many men have lost their sense of humor to the work a day world and the pressure of life’s interest. Being the funny guy can be the best card in town, and if you’re any good at it, the women will start lining up to be around you instead.

If you have found my article interesting, I have come across a site which is at the moment giving away a massive free Book titled Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women. I have personally found this one of the best books on the subject of Dating and Relationships and I highly recommend you read it. It’s a must read.
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posted by infomktjv on Sep 9

Our mating rituals are rather complex considering that some species get away with a simple argument between the males or the mastery of a special mating song. But we start ours with the act of flirtatious behavior.

Women have an easier time defining their flirtatious behavior. Guys wouldn’t et very far with most women if they spent their time flinging their hair back and giggling like a child. However, men have specific and necessary mating ritual flirtation behavior that is just as informative as a woman’s gentle touch on the arm.

Men generally flirt verbally. Since swinging our hips isn’t going to bring us a woman, we have learned to rely on our basic prowess and our ability to compliment, tickle, and play with women. The more we define our ability to flirt, the better we become at displaying our interest and our intentions. Since we are one of the few species that have the social requirements concerning privacy and expectations (including the one where we all walk around clothed) flirting effectively can be difficult.

Compliments are, of course, a great method of flirting. When you are complimenting you are smiling a lot, building up an obvious interest in someone, and sending out a very clear message. Offering up a few very subtle but sincere sexual innuendos can also be considered flirting. While you don’t want to ask her if she is ready to spread’em, you can make a few suggestive comments that aren’t directly related to taking her to bed. Subtle sexual undertones can be effective flirtatious behavior. Obvious and direct commentary is usually not well received unless you are positive that she is right there with you.

It is not uncommon for men to flirt with a woman who isn’t responsive to sexual interest. It seems that women are flirting and then all of sudden they turn cold when they realize that you are interested in them as anything more than just a friend. Women who are really relaxed around men might simply be enjoying the company and having a good time. Men tend to get their signals crossed regularly on this topic. Men have a harder time with subtlety. We just prefer that people come right out and say what they mean and what they want. Because we have to spend so much of our time guessing, we get confused and we often find ourselves frustrated with the situation. Every guy has had this experience more than once if he has done anything more than just look at a woman. Rely on your experience and just apologize if you get it wrong.

Don’t take things too seriously. I believe that this is rule number one to successful flirting. Sometimes flirting just feels good. You can certainly tell when a woman is at the very least enjoying the attention. Even if she is otherwise committed or she is likely to notice that you are engaged in trying to seduce her, women sometimes will let you continue flirting just because they are loving the attention. Often they don’t get enough of this sort of positive attention from their significant other and you are fulfilling a vital need for her. While it might be little consolation when you drive home alone again that night, there is something truly remarkable in being able to give a woman such a special and meaningful gift.

Flirting is a natural part of the mating ritual of humans. Just like the beasts of the wild, our mating ritual needs to be practiced regularly in order to get it down just right. Some of our instinctual behaviors are dead on while others are not. Practice enjoying the process and the gift of flirting and the end result won’t matter quite as much.

If you have found my article interesting, I have come across a site which is at the moment giving away a massive free Book titled Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women. I have personally found this one of the best books on the subject of Dating and Relationships and I highly recommend you read it. It’s a must read.
Download it from;
www.secrets2datingsuccess.com