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posted by astratton on May 26

Lyle Lovett is obviously an extremely talented musician and, I’d like to add, he seems like an all-around decent guy. But he’s an odd-looking fellow. The whacked-out hair and sharp features make him look like a comic book character come to life. So why does he get laid more than you and me put together?

Simple. It’s because women are attracted to the whole package-the entirety of the unique combination of traits each man brings to the table. You can look at female attraction as an equation. Lay out the top ten characteristics a woman seeks in a man and assign a 1-10 number to each one for a particular man. Add them all up and that’s a man’s AQ, his Attraction Quotient.

For instance, if a guy is really rich, he gets a “10″ in the ‘Money’ category. But he’s not very funny, so he gets a “2″ for ‘Sense of Humor’. Add up the numbers from each of the top ten qualifiers and you get each man’s unique AQ. Each woman has a minimum acceptable number. The more attractive the woman, the higher that number tends to be.

Lyle Lovett goes beyond 10 to an 11 on the scale for money, celebrity, and talent. Good looks? Doesn’t matter. If he had the personality of a wet mattress, it still wouldn’t matter that much. His AQ is still sky-high.

This is good news for each and every man alive. It means that no matter how poor or un-handsome a man perceives himself to be, he can improve his Attraction Quotient, and therefore snag a higher quantity and quality of ladies.

A woman has a tougher time, however. Her attractiveness is measured first and foremost by her physical appearance and her ability to change her attractiveness is limited in large part by her genetics.

But a man is never stuck into any one AQ by the genetic crapshoot bestowed upon us by our parents. The nature by which a woman’s brain is hard-wired means she is equally attracted to non-physical characteristics such as integrity, social status and sense of humor. To better his lot, a man can hit the gym, start a business, volunteer at a children’s hospital, or any number of a million different things to jack his AQ sky high.

This philosophy is in stark contrast to what is commonly called “The Game”, a system of moves and statements designed to manipulate a woman into being interested in a man. But in this system of socializing with women, what happens after the first sex? To keep having sex with a particular woman, do you have to keep playing ‘The Game’? When do you stop playing? After the kids are in college?

It seems a much longer-lasting and effective way to produce consistent results with women is to channel the energy normally spent on ‘gaming’, into improving yourself and your AQ instead. It’s the difference between spending your last hundred bucks on either a prostitute or a Bowflex. The first one will get you a woman for sure, but the second will keep getting you women for many months and years to come.

Even a man with ordinary looks and an average size penis can get and keep a good woman. If you’d like to find out more about your Attraction Quotient, see more info at http://www.theunhunghero.com

posted by jameskern on May 26

Volumes could be written on this subject. After all, it’s a slightly different list for every woman. Is there really a master list of the things a man can do to make a woman happy? Sure there is, but let me tell you a story first.

Names in this story have been changed to protect the not-so-innocent, but it’s a true tale.

Emily had been the popular girl throughout school - slender, sexy, smart. Aaron was the guy who did everything for Emily but always ended up in the dreaded Friend Zone. He watched from the sidelines as Emily dated loser after loser throughout high school. He was there to clean up the mess when she’d end up heartbroken, but somehow she never saw him in that way.

He moved halfway across the country and they lost touch for a while. One day, Emily realized that there was one guy who had always been there for her. She called up Aaron to admit that she had been wrong all these years to find out that he was engaged. Emily had missed her window. Upset with herself for being blind until it was too late, she went back to her life.

Months passed and she found out that Aaron was back in town. Not only that, he had broken off his engagement! The rest was history, and after a short stint dating, they got married and had a beautiful, healthy son.

It wasn’t your average marriage though. Emily had an insatiable sexual appetite and wanted more than what Aaron could provide. Since the idea of sharing his bed with other women was appealing (seriously, what guy would turn it down?), he agreed to open their marriage and become swingers.

What happened won’t be a surprise to some people. Emily left Aaron for a man that they met while swinging. A man who was also married.

When asked why she would leave what on the surface seemed like a wonderful, stable, loving relationship, she said simply “I need more. I don’t know what that thing is, but I know I feel closer to it with Tim than I do with Aaron. So really, I’m not leaving Aaron for Tim. I’m leaving Aaron because Tim has shown me that I could have things better.”

So What’s “Better”?

For Emily, it was a feeling of being absolutely adored that she never had with Aaron. Seeing them together, it was clear that Aaron treated Emily as a possession. Even when he “shared” her with other couples, it was clear that he was sharing her because he owned her. On the other hand, Tim treated Emily like he was the luckiest guy in the world to have her around.

What Do Women Want In A Man?

#1- A Best Friend

You should be her best friend. When something awesome (or awful) happens to her, you are the first person she thinks to call. If there’s a choice to do something with someone, she wants you involved. More importantly, she wants YOU to WANT to be involved. Here’s where similar interests come into play.

Emily wanted a man who would take her on trips to the beach. Aaron wanted to sit at home and watch reruns of Family Guy.

#2- A Thoughtful And Passionate Lover

It’s rare to find a woman who really isn’t interested in sex. Usually the case is that she’s been with so many guys who had themselves as the #1 bedroom priority that she’s lost interest in being used as a sex toy.

Seriously guys, if women were not interested in sex, it’s because we’ve taught them that sex is uninteresting and not worth having.

A man who is totally focused on his partner’s pleasure in the bedroom will find that she’ll be more interested in him as a result. If you’re looking at women with a passion in your eyes like they’re the tastiest dish you’ve ever laid your eyes upon, they have to respond in kind.

Aaron and Emily’s sex life looked passionate and exciting on the outside. Swingers! That’s gotta be a great life, right? Actually, what it did was teach Emily that there were guys out there who could satisfy her in ways Aaron never could.

#3- Someone Who Will Ask Her What She Needs

Here’s the wild card.

Every woman is different. Some want to be constantly showered with affection whilst others prefer space. Some want visual representations of love (flowers, cards, love notes) while others prefer verbal expressions of affection.

Emily has always loved flowers; Aaron believed it was stupid to buy something that would die in a few days. Emily was a die-hard romantic; Aaron boycotted Valentine’s Day as a Hallmark holiday. “You know I love you,” he’d say. “I married you.”

To him, that was enough. To Emily, it wasn’t even close.

Communication is the key to making any relationship last, so be sure you’re using those lips for more than just kissing. Talk to her, find out what makes her tick. What’s a good boyfriend / husband? He’s the man who knows your heart’s song and sings it to you when you forget how it goes.

That’s the man that women want.

James Kern, aka the modern day Don Juan, has showered onto thousands how to supercharge their relationship and win the heart of their lover. Get your video tips to attract women as part of his Back Together Forever series. http://www.backtogetherforever.com.