Men Tips

posted by mathewg on Mar 13

If you suffer regularly from premature ejaculation, it can be both frustrating and upsetting, not just for you but for your partner as well. Perhaps when you first started to lose control of your orgasms, it only happened occasionally but it has now become a regular habit, occurring every time you attempt to have sex.

If this is the case, it is likely to be causing friction in your relationship no matter how long you have been together or how strong the partnership is. For some men, premature ejaculation is extremely embarrassing and it brings feelings of loss of masculinity. Not being able to satisfy your partner or bring her to orgasm with penetrative sex because you have already come too soon, makes sex less enjoyable not just for the woman but the man as well. On top of this is the fear this lack of control is happening every time you have sex. Talking about this issue can be difficult because of the embarrassment it causes or because the man fears being ridiculed or less thought of.

However, it is important to discuss your P.E. with your partner, if only for reassurance that you are not to blame. Skirting the issue is not going to make things better so it is important you seek out as many helpful tips as possible in order to rectify the condition and build up your self-confidence.

How a man performs in the bedroom can have a great affect on his confidence levels and self-esteem. It is not that he wishes to be a sex-god who can perform contortions and give women multiple orgasms all night long but it is important that he can satisfy his partner and bring her to orgasm before he climaxes himself. It is a great feeling for a man to watch and listen as his woman reaches the height of her sexual excitement. It adds to his sense of masculinity, knowing he was responsible for her loss of control.

However, for those suffering from this sexual dysfunction, this ego boost is replaced by feelings of despair and a definite lack of self-confidence. Not being able to control yourself from climaxing too soon during sex often makes a man feel worthless and unable to give his partner any sexual pleasure.

Women generally take much longer than men do to reach the stage where they orgasm, so any man suffering from this problem is practically guaranteed not to give enough stimulation for her to reach a climax. This can be frustrating for the woman, who is now unable to have a vaginal orgasm and this may leave her feeling unsatiated and left out.

This is why it is important to talk with your partner about your sexual issues. Reassure her you are not just pleasuring yourself or being selfish. Explain that it is not your fault and how embarrassing and frustrating it is for you too whenever you are unable to meet her sexual demands. If your relationship is strong, she will understand and do her best to help in any way she can. Perhaps she could assist with treatments such as the stop and start method or the squeeze technique, both of which are designed to relieve symptoms of premature ejaculation.

Sometimes just knowing that there are treatments available to relieve premature ejaculation is a comfort to many men. You do not have to live with this condition permanently so finding help now will allow you to once again feel like a real man with the self-confidence and sexual enthusiasm to give your partner endless hours of ecstasy between the sheets. Seek out premature ejaculation tips now and you may even find practicing the exercises with your partner a whole new enjoyable experience in itself!

You are about to learn the best kept tips to lasting longer in bed, and the secret that thousands of men are using to achieve maximum staying power during sex. At last you can finally get real results, delay your orgasms, and give her the pleasure she desires. End premature ejaculation once and for all. Guaranteed.

posted by dschaefer on Mar 13

They say there’s more than one way to skin a cat. The same goes when you start tearing your hair out with all the frustration, grief, anxiety, and yes, stress. It’s a state of mental conditioning that is like taking that bitter pill down your throat, causing you to lose your sense of self, and worse your sanity. Just thinking about it can drive anyone off the edge.

And they say that the proactive ones are already living off the edge.

As one stressed-out person to another, I know how it feels, and believe me there are many variants when it comes to stress. Coping with life, and carrying the problems that may or may not belong to you can scratch away the little joy and happiness that you can carry once you head out that door. You can’t blame them for being like that; they have their own reasons, so much like we have our reasons to allow stress to weigh us down. They say that stress is all in the mind, well, what’s bugging you anyway?

There are several ways to manage stress, and eventually remove it out of your life one of these days. So I’ll try to divide it into a seven-day course for you and I promise it’s not going to be too taxing on the body, as well as on the mind.

1. Acknowledge stress is good
Make stress your friend! Based on the body’s natural “fight or flight” response, that burst of energy will enhance your performance at the right moment. I’ve yet to see a top sportsman totally relaxed before a big competition. Use stress wisely to push yourself that little bit harder when it counts most.

2. Avoid stress sneezers
Stressed people sneeze stress germs indiscriminately and before you know it, you are infected too!

Protect yourself by recognizing stress in others and limiting your contact with them. Or if you’ve got the inclination, play stress doctor and teach them how to better manage themselves.

3. Learn from the best
When people around are losing their head, who keeps calm? What are they doing differently? What is their attitude? What language do they use? Are they trained and experienced? Figure it out from afar or sit them down for a chat. Learn from the best stress managers and copy what they do.

4. Practice socially acceptable heavy breathing
This is something I’ve learned from a gym instructor: You can trick your body into relaxing by using heavy breathing. Breathe in slowly for a count of 7 then breathe out for a count of 11. Repeat the 7-11 breathing until your heart rate slows down, your sweaty palms dry off and things start to feel more normal.

5. Give stressy thoughts the red light
It is possible to tangle yourself up in a stress knot all by yourself. “If this happens, then that might happen and then we’re all up the creek!” Most of these things never happen, so why waste all that energy worrying needlessly?

Give stress thought-trains the red light and stop them in their tracks. Okay so it might go wrong - how likely is that, and what can you do to prevent it?

6. Know your trigger points and hot spots
Presentations, interviews, meetings, giving difficult feedback, tight deadlines. My heart rate is cranking up just writing these down!

Make your own list of stress trigger points or hot spots. Be specific. Is it only presentations to a certain audience that get you worked up? Does one project cause more stress than another? Did you drink too much coffee?

Knowing what causes you stress is powerful information, as you can take action to make it less stressful. Do you need to learn some new skills? Do you need extra resources? Do you need to switch to decaf?

7. Burn the candle at one end
Lack of sleep, poor diet and no exercise wreaks havoc on our body and mind. Kind of obvious, but worth mentioning as it’s often ignored as a stress management technique. Listen to your mother and don’t burn the candle at both ends!

So having stress can be a total drag, but that should not hinder us to find the inner peace of mind that we have wanted for a long time. In any case, one could always go to the Bahamas and bask under the summer sun.

Deborah Schaefer, publisher of www.SuccessOrate.com, the Personal Development Planning Center, is living her passion by helping people improve their lives through her informative, inspirational and motivational writing and resources.