posted by BuddyF on Jan 7
Doubt, nervousness and self-pity, some guys have these emotions to spare since they lack attraction tips. You can probably imagine how a night out on the town goes for this guy. He gets dressed and looks himself over in the mirror pausing at every flaw on his body and being sure to make a critical note to himself about it. He thinks to himself going out is a waste of time and is sure no woman will be interested in what he has to offer.
When he finally gets to the club with his friends his negative emotions are leading him around. He settles down in the back shadowy part of the room, slouched down in his chair, frowning and looking bored as his friends dance around and have a good time. When he sees a woman he finds attractive he wants to go up to her but in his mind he has already decided she will turn him down.
His friend however, encourages him to approach so he stands up and stomps over showing awful body language as he pulls his shoulders up to his ears, rounds his backs and approaches with his head down. He looks at the girl and allows nerves or his fear to get the best of him and he mumbles out something the girl can barely understand, she just looks confused and finally after waiting for a few seconds to see if he will repeat his words, she and her friends wander off. The guy with the negative attitude is left their feeling embarrassment and thinking to himself “I knew this would happen!”
Well he was right. Because instead of using attraction tips he did everything possible to make himself look unattractive in a woman’s eyes. He did not show the woman what made him a guy she would want to get to know better and if shy guys want to attract women here are simple smart tips useful for any type of guy.
Start small
An Olympic trained athlete does not just try out for an Olympic team he spends years planning, preparing and training. Though you don’t have to train for years before dating you should gain a little experience before stepping up to the big event. Guys who doubt their own ability to attract women need to start developing their self-esteem; the simplest way to do this is to find ways to interact with women in locations free of pressure.
The pressure is absent because they guy is not trying to hit on a girl. Places that guys can surround themselves with girls include malls, libraries and bookstores. Even places where you are forced to wait in long lines before being served are great for practicing this skill. The more a guy practices, the faster he can move on up to actually asking out women he meets at locations like this and finally tackling the “big event” again or the club, bar and party scene.
Fail forward not backwards
Guys who keep making the same mistakes are a big turn off! Attraction tips for men can help ensure that as you learn the right way to use body language, learn to flirt and show self confidence when talking to a woman without reverting too your old ways. Once you learn these tips they become a part of you unconscious movements and actions around a woman.
Never say no to a girl
Every guy has the right to have his favorite type of girl, but for guys who lack self-confidence they often put this girl on a pedestal and do not even have the courage to actually walk over and talk to her. So instead they keep watching her from afar and actually ignoring perfectly acceptable women who are around them and actually find them attractive. A smart guy knows that no girl should be placed on a pedestal, look around you and evaluate women who are already into you. Not only will you have to do less work to establish this relationship but also this girl could turn out to be a great girlfriend.
Learn body language attraction tips
Remember my earlier story about the shy guy who did everything wrong when approaching a woman? Well let me take a minute to show how attraction tips could have helped him understand what body language should be used when coming on to women.
If he had stood up straight, put a smile on his face and walked over with a friendly greeting the girl he approached would have been more willing to stick around.
Buddy Franklin is a dating advice guru. He recommends: Tips for Attracting Women, Attraction Tips, How to Attract Women
