Men Tips

posted by BuddyF on Jan 6

There are secrets to dating guys and not everyone feels like sharing. Luckily for you I do. Unless you are born being the alpha male every single guy needs a little assistance to learn how to attract women.

The first step in improving your dating history is to find and establish your personality type. Answer these simple questions to determine if you are a beta, omega or alpha male.

1. When you go out with your friends:

a. You are the leader in charge. Telling everyone what to do and staying the center of attention of every girl in the room.

b. You are the guy who hangs out in the background while your alpha friend hits on beautiful women and gets all the phone number.

c. You are the guy your friends feel sorry for, and make fun of. You defer to their leadership and do what they tell you.

2. When you ask out a women:

a. You walk right up to her. You are the alpha male, confident and secure in your own skin, knowing that you have something to offer.

b. You spend a few minutes working up your nerve before you approach. You are a little nervous and don’t show much confidence but you are able to ask for her number and make small talk.

c. You turn red and stumble all over yourself when you finally get up the courage to walk up to a women. You stare and stammer and have trouble getting out a full sentence, she may even walk away before you finish speaking.

3. When speaking to a woman over the phone you:

a. You are charming and funny, easily able to keep the conversation flowing and keeping her interested. When you hang up the phone, she is left waiting wishing the conversation didn’t end so soon.

b. You are able to get her attention but have trouble keeping it. You don’t know what to talk about and there are some long silences in conversation while you struggle to think of something to say.

c. You are too distracted and nervous to say much of anything. She does most of the talking with you throwing in a word every now and then.

4. When out on a first date with a woman:

a. You make jokes and small talk getting her to laugh and relax in your presence.

b. You struggle to keep the conversation going and have trouble thinking of interesting topics, often letting an uncomfortable silence build.

c. You sweat, stammer and stare, struggling to control your nerves and hormones, your date is bored and ready to end the evening early.

5. When it comes to sex with beautiful women:

a. You get more sex than you can handle, able to get a woman to say “yes” with no effort on your part.

b. You are hit or miss. You get some sex but not with the hottest women around and nowhere near as often as you want.

c. You can barely remember the last time you had sex and have trouble getting women interested in anything beyond first dates and casual kisses.

Mostly a answers: You are the alpha male. You possess the strong dominant personality that women find irresistible. You know how to be charming without being overly sensitive or feminine in your behaviors. You are able to get phone numbers from most any women you want and progress past first dates to kissing and sex. You know how to handle yourself in any social situation with a woman, even knowing how to handle several women at once!

Mostly b answers: You are the beta. In the behavior hierarchy, you are second to the alpha male. You know how to socialize with women but it is not natural and you quickly cave under the pressure. Though you are able to attract some women and carry on conversations, you do not know how to keep a woman’s interest and when the alpha male is in the room, you get no love.

Mostly c answers: You are the omega male. You find yourself feeling awkward and out in place in most social situations. You have trouble speaking to women and standing up for yourself in all social situations. When you do approach a women you don’t just get rejected you often end up embarrassed with an audience to catch the humiliation. Your male friends have no respect for you and your female friends treat you like one of the girls.

If you are a beta or omega male there is hope for you. You can learn how to develop your alpha male behaviors to stop getting rejected by women. You can retrain how you interact with women to get more dating success than you ever thought possible.

Buddy Franklin is a dating advice guru. He recommends: How to Become an Alpha Male, Alpha Male, Alpha Male Behavior

posted by directinc on Jan 6

Just about every so-called persuasion and influence expert out there has an opinion on how to read body language. They just love to say things like ‘if someone is standing with their arms crossed, they’re in a defensive position.’

Uh, no. Not really. They might be cold. They might have a bad back. Or they may just like to cross their arms like I do. But if you believe the expert and try to read someone’s body language based on generalities, you’re going to get in real big trouble.

So, is reading body language BS, especially when it comes to attracting desirable women? No, it’s not, but it must be done the right way, and when you read body language, you must realize its limitations. First off, most guys make a huge mental mistake when they try to read body language: they look for body language cues that let them know if a woman likes them or not.

This is a sure way to kill attraction. Why? Because when you adopt this frame of mind, you’re unsure if she’s attracted to you. You doubt yourself. And women can sense a man’s doubt a mile away. You’re done before you even start to read body language.
The right mindset is this: you’re an attractive man, and of course she’s attracted to you. You are, after all, a MAN (a rare thing in this day and age of the wuss), and women are attracted to men. So, you’re NOT looking for body language that reveals whether she likes you or not.

Once you have the right mindset, though, paying attention to a woman’s entire range of communication (including reading body language) is very useful. One reason is very simple: you’re actually listening and paying attention to her, and that act in and of itself is rare.

What are most men doing when they talk to women? Paying attention to the conversation in their own heads, and thinking about the next thing they’re going to say to impress her. So, when you actually pay attention to the woman in front of you (including reading body language), it creates attraction because it is so darn different.

But what about reading body language itself? Is that useful? Yes. Yes it is. Here’s why: you can use body language as ‘guideposts’ to let you know if your current behavior is reinforcing the existing attraction, or killing it. It also lets you know when it’s time to amp up the attraction, i.e. ‘get physical.’

Truthfully, there’s not much body language to read. If a woman is laughing AND touching you, that’s a good thing. If you touch her, and she touches you back, yep, things are going good. And if you squeeze her hand, and she squeezes back, well, things are about to get exciting.

So, don’t get too caught up in reading body language. Proper mindset, paying attention to the woman in front of you (which includes reading body language), and increasing the attraction when you see overt body language indicating attraction (like she grabs your knee and squeezes) will get you further than seeing if the right quadrant of her left cheek is slightly red when she looks up and to the right.

You’ll finally know how to meet women, attract women, and pick up women, having power and control over your dating live. Go to www.WomenApproachYou.com to discover these dating secrets

posted by BuddyF on Jan 6

What women want? Is a question that has plagued mankind forever. Lets be honest with ourselves here guys we don’t really know what women want. You are a smart guy; you are nice, courteous, polite, decent looking and have a good job, yet the women you meet still do not seem to be that interested in you. Or you may be dating a lot but not getting past a few dates with the women you really like, even your sex life has begin to suffer. With you not getting as much as you want and not with the women you really want. If this sounds like you guys, you have truly misunderstood what women are looking for.

The problem is not your fault guys; it lies with the society we live in. Women are bombarded with messages from romance novels, TV shows and movies telling them the type of guy they should want. Showing the stereotype of the guy who comes in to play the “shining knight” role, rescuing a woman from all her troubles and cares. The problem with this guy is that we do not live in a fairytale world. There are no dragons to slay or invisible villains to defeat.

Truthfully guys, women don’t always know what they want! So instead of spending money and catering to a woman’s every whim, instead have her wanting you instead! Though women don’t always know what they want there are certain traits that turn on any woman and can get you a date or get you laid.

Go caveman: Yes, we live in the 21st century and are experiencing incredible transformations in our society but sexual attraction is still based a lot on the programming of our genes. In women, these genes encourage women to look for the provider type. A man who is strong and capable of handling any type of situation, women can’t help but be attracted to guys who assert themselves and are able to lead and give instructions to others around them. Develop your caveman instincts by being:

- Dominant: Don’t be the guy hiding in the dark corner of a club. You should be hanging out where all the action is, surrounded by others if you want to be what women want. Dominate males are naturally given respect by other man in the room and are looked too as leaders.

- Confident: Second-guessing, hesitating and being unable to make a decision are signs of a guy who will not be getting any sex and has no idea what women want! You don’t have to act superior or be a jerk just show some backbone and be unapologetic for your opinions!

- Strong: Men are providers, being physically and emotionally strong are positives. This does not mean you need to join a gym or any other extreme. It just means being able to show a woman that you are able to provide her support, being able to stand up for her, if some jerk makes a move while you are together on a date. You can show emotional strength by being resolved and calm instead of being the type of guy who panics and runs when a situation occurs.

Be exciting: Predictable boring guys are no fun to date, especially in a new relationship. What women want is to date a guy who is a little unpredictable. A guy who she can’t automatically read, if a woman thinks she has you all figured out, what will be her motivation to stick around? Nothing! Women tend to think of men like a puzzle they want to put together and understand, make sure you are the one holding out all the pieces and only give out one piece of the puzzle at a time. You can be exciting by:

- Talking about your interest: Nobody wants a conversation about what time you got up, how you brushed your teeth or how often you floss, a conversation like that is like watching paint dry. Tedious and dull, instead talk about passionate topics, if you are engaging and interesting a woman is more likely to respond the same way.

- Holding back: Your whole life history may be fascinating to you but to her it is dull and boring, so shut up about it! Holding back some information about yourself may make you look more interesting to women, as they are enthralled by the idea of men who have secrets. If you want to increase your chances of getting woman, then be a little mysterious.

- Never do the same thing twice: Dating is about having fun and what women want is a guy who is impulsive and a little unpredictable. Take a girl out to an unexpected place for a date can make you some more adventurous than any other guy she has ever been with.

Buddy Franklin is a dating advice guru. He recommends: Seduce Women, How to Tell if a Woman Likes You, What Women Want