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posted by BuddyF on Jan 4

Most guys think approaching women is like getting their teeth pulled and as long as you associate negative feelings and emotions with dating women, then you will never get a woman’s phone number or get her interested in having sex with you! If you want your approach to be successful you have to change your thinking and learn to associate picking up women with fun and exciting emotions instead.

Think about how you feel when approaching women, there are several reoccurring emotions that most man seem to associate with the experience, including nerves, sweating and inability to think of what to say! If you have no clue how to play a board game you wouldn’t jump right in without reading the instruction, so if you want to be taken seriously by women you want to have sex with, take a little time to learn the correct approach.

There are different approaches, and guys who have the experience and confidence can adapt almost any technique and work it to their advantage, but to start with there are five techniques that work in almost any situation and are sure to get you success.

1. Lead with a gift: One of my favorites that has rarely let me down is the “warm up” approach. Women are hit on all the time, so I take a little time to set myself apart. Before approaching, I have a drink sent over to the women and her friends and instruct the waiter to tell her I sent it. Most women will appreciate the gesture, especially if you bought drinks for everyone at the table. When you do approach you already have a conversation starter, just ask her if she enjoyed the drink.

2. Laughter is the best medicine: My best friend is a hilarious guy, and his first and only method of approaching women is the funny pick up line. Pick up lines can be tricky to use and when I use this approach my pickup lines always come across as lame and maybe yours will too. Roll with it! Just laugh it off and ask her to share the worst pick up line she has ever received or throw out a few more to keep her laughing.

3. Be Romantic: One of my closest female friends once told me about the best method a guy ever used to approach her. Their eyes locked from across the room and he didn’t hesitate. He walked right over and told her she was the most beautiful women he had ever seen and he would be crushed if he didn’t get too spend a few moments basking in her presence. Now to me this sounded a little sappy, but to my friend a huge romantic at heart, this was perfect. So perfect in fact she later married the guy! So be willing to take a risk and make a women feel as if she is the most incredible mouthwatering site in the room.

4. Try Simple and direct: If you take the simple approach, you are the type of guy who does not believe in playing games. Simply make eye contact to show a woman you are interested then walk over to her. Just greet her and introduce yourself, try to draw her out and get her to respond to you. Body language is important in this approach to keep a woman from growing bored, be subtle but let her see your sexual interest.

5. Use the Wild Card: I throw this approach out when I find myself in an unfamiliar situation, or a location where approaching women is not as easy as it would be at a bar, store or other usual hangouts. This approach is about meeting women while hiking, at jury duty on vacation, at church anywhere outside your normal routine. Here just be spontaneous take any minute or possible opportunity you have to speak with a woman and take it! You cannot afford to wait, in this type of atmosphere. For example if you are waiting at jury duty beside a woman you find attractive tell her she smells great or talk about the long court wait.

The most important think to remember when approaching women is that there are no guarantees! As much as these methods will help you there is never going to be a 100% assurance that a women won’t tell you no, and this is part of what makes it so wonderful when you walk up to a woman, use one of these simple methods and get a phone number, a date or even sex.

Buddy Franklin is a dating advice guru. He recommends: Approaching women, How to Approach Woman, Approach Woman

posted by BuddyF on Jan 4

How do you feel when you approach woman? Most guys get nervous walking up to a woman and trying to make contact. Their palms start to sweat, their bodies start to tremble and they can feel the glands in their throat start to swell. Think about how the lady feels though, seeing some guy whose eyes keep darting around, sweating and breathing heavily walking towards her, it is just not comfortable for either of you.

To approach a woman correctly man need to get a grip! A woman saying “no” or rejecting your advances may be a little sad but put it into perspective much worse things can and do happen in the world. Stop thinking about what to do, and what to say, in fact, the best way too approach a woman is to take the simple approach to make it enjoyable.

Dating is a game and if you think of it in those terms you can relax and have fun with your approach. Just like playing a video game, you should take the time to plan a course of action. When you play a video game, you adopt the habits and traits of the main character, and when dating allowing yourself to break outside of your shell and approach woman in a different way can help you end up with less rejections and encourage you to approach woman you normally would be too intimidated by.

No, you don’t have to lie or pretend, but using the techniques that work for a more successful friend allow you to adapt to any social environment with women, and feature a different side of your character that women could find more attractive. Another video game technique that works is using the help of your friends. The “buddy approach” works great when dealing with a group of women, and is a great technique when at a bar or club.

For the buddy approach to work you have to have a male friend along. After spotting the woman you have an interest in, you point her out to your friends. Their job is for your friends to target her friends so you can grab the attention of the girl you like and get a little time alone. Because she is being approached in a group setting with her friends around she will likely be more open.

Approach woman you like at the bar with your friends. All of you should take time to introduce yourselves and spend a few minutes talking to all of the girls their so no one feels offended. This also allow the girl you like to see you are capable of getting along with her friends and are not just after sex. Smiling, light flirting and jokes are also sure to get her attention. Then casually ask her to dance or suggest to buy another round of drinks and ask her to walk you too the bar to help carry the drinks back to group.

Once you have the girl away from her friends for a few minutes, do not waste any time. Build a connection by talking about similar interest, ask her to dance and use body language to increase sexual desire. Take advantage of the club atmosphere, while your friends distract her friends; suggest you find a secluded table in the club to talk. As you get closer and she shows she feels the same attraction lean in for a kiss.

The friend approach works great at parties, clubs and another late night type of meetings. Do you know the best way to approach a girl in the daytime though? Parks, libraries, bookstores, coffee shops and even grocery stores are great ways of meeting women during daytime and work best without the interference of your other friends around.

To approach woman at these locations, use the setting to your advantage. At the library act interested in the book she is reading or ask for assistance with locating a particular section. At the grocery store ask for advice on picking out a fruit, or help in finding a particular brand. Whatever the situation there are simple ways to approach a woman that will not make her afraid or cause her to tense up.

Think of the daytime approach as an approach that would work on anyone. When done correctly women will not feel intimidated because you are using the same type of language and body signals that you would use when approaching a male friend, a store employee or a little old lady. Once she answers your questions, you ease into small talk. Add in a little casual flirting to start showing sexual intent.

Buddy Franklin is a dating advice guru. He recommends: Tips for approaching women, How to Approach Women, Approach Woman

posted by BuddyF on Jan 4

Darwin said that only the strong survive, though he used this term to describe a species ability to stay in existence it is also the perfect term to describe alpha male behavior. In relationships, men who do not have the authority and confidence to pursue what they want are not going to succeed. These non-alpha males end up at the bottom of the dating ladder and they just do not turn on women.

Of course, alpha male behavior does not just develop instinctively in most men, unless you were the biggest jock in high school or the pretty model boy women may not have instinctively been attracted too you. Even the physical appeal of the high school jock and pretty boy start to fade once a woman gets to know them better.

No man can sustain a relationship on physical appeal alone, to become an alpha male you have to develop strategies that allow you to appeal to a woman’s interest, being able to talk on a variety of different subjects is important. Alpha males know how to arouse using nonverbal signals and show charm and a sense of humor to get the woman hooked!

Alpha male behaviors do not just get you the attention of one woman in the bar; it catches the eyes of all her friends as well. A skilled alpha male even knows how to juggle 2-3 women at once! Knowing how to signal with your body signs of sexual arousal and rev up a woman’s arousal too you alone.

The alpha male attitude does not just apply when dealing with women he is also a natural leader among his friends. Charging in and taking command in any situation, other guys look up to the alpha male, he is a success in his career and has the admiration of everyone he meets. You might be wondering who am I and how do I know so much about typical alpha male behavior? I learned it the hard way, through spending my younger years at the polar opposite of the alpha male, the omega.

An omega is a man who lacks the assertiveness and self-esteem that an alpha male has, and in my teens and early twenties, I was that guy. I can look back on it now and laugh, I remember hanging out with my group of guy friends, I was always the odd man out, hanging on and watching as my friends hooked up with beautiful women while I fetched drinks and sat at the table by myself why they were dancing.

I rarely had the courage to walk up to a woman and ask for her number, my turning point came when I asked out a co-worker. She did not just turn me down; she laughed and told everyone else about it. Imagine how I felt the next day, walking into the office and feeling the stares of pity from my coworkers. Right that moment, I vowed to make a change.

I quickly began investigating every program, group, book and website claiming to help guys develop alpha male behavior. Before finding the right product, I wasted a lot of time and money. Every program I found just offered basic information about what made an alpha male. These sites often offered the same information but did not provide any real advice on how I could learn to develop my own alpha male traits and ask out women.

Finally after a long search I stumbled across a complete “start-to-finish” approach that offered me real advice, videos and podcast to help me begin to recognize my alpha male traits and use them in the real world. My life completely turned around not only did I become an alpha male; I become a dating guru, using my training and knowledge to help other men avoid some of the dating mistakes I made.

Now my professional and personal lives are both in harmony thanks to my alpha male behaviors. I date as much as I want, have sex anytime I want and have developed the confidence I used to lack. When it comes to my dating life, I learned that a little selfishness is what sets the alpha male apart. By putting my needs first, I was able to connect with beautiful women. Even successfully getting phone numbers and dates from women I used to think were out of my league.

I only have one regret, waiting so long before developing my own alpha male behavior. Do not make that same mistake! You do not have to make a phone call, leave your home or enter in all your personal information. You can get started today and learn how to become a modern man.

Buddy Franklin is a dating advice guru. He recommends: The Alpha Male, Alpha Male traits, Alpha Male Behaviors