Men Tips

posted by infomktjv on May 29

It can be easy to believe that once a man reaches a predetermined level of business success that his partner will be a happier and more accepting individual.

This simply doesn’t make linear sense if we back up and look at it. Our society tends to hold money up as the great big prize, yet more couples with incomes over $100,000 end up divorce every year. While a lack of money can be stressful, money isn’t a key to any type of successful relationship, unless you want your only successful relationship to be with your bank teller.

When you begin the ladder of success, you are focused and driven, often using your future happiness as a goal and reward. In reality, we can be rather happy at any stage of the ladder if we love and are loved without judgment or blame. You are not responsible for her happiness, and she is not responsible for your happiness. Each of you is responsible for your own sense of wellbeing in the world. When she completes you or you complete her, you are victimizing yourselves and living in a codependent relationship.

Money isn’t going to complete you or her, either. Money is a necessary commodity, but it isn’t the root of anything evil or divine. It just is. Happiness comes from within and a successful relationship starts with loving each other without judgment and listening to each other with open and honest hearts. Growing together is one of the joys of having someone with you while you work your way up the ladder. Pinning your happiness on a future success is wasteful and time ignorant.

It can be easy to believe that once a man reaches a predetermined level of business success that his partner will be a happier and more accepting individual.

This simply doesn’t make linear sense if we back up and look at it. Our society tends to hold money up as the great big prize, yet more couples with incomes over $100,000 end up divorce every year. While a lack of money can be stressful, money isn’t a key to any type of successful relationship, unless you want your only successful relationship to be with your bank teller.

When you begin the ladder of success, you are focused and driven, often using your future happiness as a goal and reward. In reality, we can be rather happy at any stage of the ladder if we love and are loved without judgment or blame. You are not responsible for her happiness, and she is not responsible for your happiness. Each of you is responsible for your own sense of wellbeing in the world. When she completes you or you complete her, you are victimizing yourselves and living in a codependent relationship.

Money isn’t going to complete you or her, either. Money is a necessary commodity, but it isn’t the root of anything evil or divine. It just is. Happiness comes from within and a successful relationship starts with loving each other without judgment and listening to each other with open and honest hearts. Growing together is one of the joys of having someone with you while you work your way up the ladder. Pinning your happiness on a future success is wasteful and time ignorant.

Always concentrate on the moment of now rather than the future. Life itself is a great journey. There really is no destination and a=our happiness depends on us understanding this. Each moment of everyday is part of this journey and each moment does have the potential to fulfill us, only if we let it and not have a=our thoughts constantly wander to the past and the future. Just savour the moment of now.

You are only granted so much time here on earth. Why decide to put off your happiness and appreciation of each other until after your income hits the big time? It almost seems counter productive to me. Instead of waiting to be happy with each other, find creative ways to determine your own happiness and appreciation of each other. In this world with the time we have, it’s a more devoted and intentional use of the time we have.

You are only granted so much time here on earth. Why decide to put off your happiness and appreciation of each other until after your income hits the big time? It almost seems counter productive to me. Instead of waiting to be happy with each other, find creative ways to determine your own happiness and appreciation of each other. In this world with the time we have, it’s a more devoted and intentional use of the time we have.

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posted by infomktjv on May 29

This is a question many men find asking themselves. Both men and women do at times hold onto the hope that things will just ‘work out’ and things will eventually change for the better.

Should your time be spent elsewhere? If you realize the woman that you have found isn’t exactly or bluntly put, no where near what you originally envisioned, perhaps its time to finally let go.

Some men think that all women are high maintenance but that is not true. It is true that any relationship needs effort to be put in on both sides and it does take two to tango. However, if you find that it is solely a one sided affair, and it takes so much effort on your end to consistently meet every demand she has of you and cannot see any reciprocation, you must step back and evaluate where will this relationship end up not too distance into the future. It hard I know, I’ve been there. However it’s better now than never. Why not die once than die a thousand deaths?

When I talk about low maintanance women, I am talking about someone who is emotionally stable doesn’t have mood swings. She also doesn’t complain day in and day out. She is pone who can let things go even if it’s your error. That is so important. We men know when we’ve done something wrong but we definitely do not need someone to remind us all day long!

We are who we are. We can change for the better and it must only be for the better. However, if the woman you’re dating expects every thing of you to change in order to meet her expectations of you, you would not be happy long term.

We men are problem solvers, this is our nature. Unlike men, women do not necessarily want things solved even after they have told us. So if you find yourself with a woman who complains all the time yet wants nothing solved and just wants an ear to listen to everyday, you’re better to just move on. She is not going to change. That is her nature.

Someone once asked me what a relationship was. I remember Anthony Robbins (the peak potential guru) once said to me, it’s to enhance the experience of both.

You need to find someone who truly allows you to be yourself and makes you feel happy. If being with someone seems like a choir, why bother. It is clearly not enhancing your experience of life.

Ask yourself this. If you find that your relationship is more work than enjoyment, you can only end it and find someone else.

If you have found my article interesting, I have come across a site which is at the moment giving away a massive free Book titled Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women. I have personally found this one of the best books on the subject of Dating and Relationships and I highly recommend you read it. It’s a must read.
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posted by drtony on May 28

Pennsylvania:A parent body slammed a high school referee after he ordered the man’s wife out of the gym for allegedly yelling obscenities during a basketball game.

The referee was treated at a hospital for a concussion and released after the attack. Charged with simple assault, assault on a sports official, reckless endangerment and disorderly conduct was a 47 year old father.

Kentucky: A father of a T-ball player was briefly jailed after an outburst against an umpire during a game involving 5 and 6 year-olds.

The accused threatened to beat the umpire moments before walking onto the field and starting a fight with an official,according to the criminal complaint. A girl who was playing in the game suffered a minor injury when she was struck in the face during the scuffle.

Every day in America and around the world,sports officials are physically and verbally harassed. Most incidents do not require police or medical assistance, but in some cases, the harassment turns violent.

The fact that such behavior occurs at sporting events involving youth participants is appalling in itself, but the frequency in which these reports now occur is even more disturbing.

NASO (National Association of Sports Officials) receives more than 100 reports annually that involve physical contact between coaches, players, fans and officials. The nearly 18,000 member organization is not the “clearinghouse for bad behavior,” says NASO President Barry Mano, but it is the belief by NASO that the reports it receives is only the “tip of the iceberg.”

Loss of control by parents has long-term negative effects on the lives of the children, the school, and the parents themselves, as the following story illustrates:

Florida:A Parent enters the soccer field to check on his son, who has been injured in a skirmish for the ball. Angry that a more severe penalty had not been levied on the opposing player, the parent confronts the referee and shoves him to the ground.

After the school had to forfeit the game, the parent was later banned from attending all extracurricular activities involving the school for at least one year and possibly through his son’s graduation.

WHAT CAUSES PARENTS TO LOSE CONTROL?
According to sports psychologist Darrell Burnett, Ph.D., often such parents are reliving unrealized dreams through their children. They somehow get caught up in the win-at-all cost frenzy.

The core problem comes from parents being too invested, emotionally and financially, in their children’s games. They sometimes have misplaced self esteem. Another factor, according to Dr. Burnett, is a general attitude in our society encouraging us to retaliate when frustrated rather than using negotiation skills: “somebody pushes their buttons and away they go.”

CAN THESE PARENTS CHANGE?
Yes, if they desire it. Learning to manage sports anger is a process of applying two of the eight core tools of anger control: (1) Adjust expectations of performance to realistic levels and (2) communicate displeasure you may have with assertive communication skills.

SPECIFIC TIPS FOR SPORTS PARENTS
Keep a moderate level of intensity; not completely detached, but not overly aggressive.

Adjust your expectations to a realistic level by putting the sporting event into proper perspective.
Other tips include:

*Don’t yell at the coach or child. If you have an issue, discuss it assertively at the appropriate time.

*Don’t try to coach from the sidelines. Again, if you have an issue with the coach, your child, or other children, discuss it privately.

*Stay interested, supportive and positive.

*Praise the effort and the progress as achievement, not just the outcome.

*Model good sportsmanship.

Dr Tony Fiore is a licensed psychologist and anger management trainer. His company, The Anger Coach provides classes, products and resources for adults, couples,the workplace, and professionals. He can be reached at 714-771-0378.

posted by infomktjv on May 27

In modern society, most families require a dual income to maintain a higher quality of life. In many households, women want the association of prestige and work related benefits of going off to work everyday. Men, who have since the down of time been the ultimate providers, are only recently being forced to change their views on male and female roles in a relationship. In many cases, men, who are naturally attuned to coming home and kicking back after a day at the office or on the job, are suddenly seen as lazy while their behavior is still considered appropriate in other cultures that revolve the process of survival around the masculine need to hunt and rest.

Women have been striving to ‘have it all’ for the last two or three generations. Having it all means having a family, a home, success both in and out of the workplace, and of course a career that is removed from the home and family. This has forced a new line of thought into the traditional roles that men and women had once defined themselves by for centuries. The new division of labor requires more from men.

We live in a free world and we all have the power of choice. For some men, choosing to integrate slowly back into the family has been met with resistance. The greatest struggle men and women face when trying to balance out family and careers is a simple lack of respect or understanding for each other’s daily business. Mothers who stay at home all day are working just as hard, however, having a fitful two year old shoved in your face upon walking in the door might not go over well if you need ten minutes or half an hour to unwind before jumping into the next family task.

Men are often seen as lazy when they take a little time to unwind before becoming involved in family chores and responsibility while women immediately take on the role of the servant. Appreciating that the other one has worked hard throughout the day and each one needs to alleviate their stress and feel supported in various ways that may differ is one of the keys to easier transitions and better division of labor.

A simple appreciation for each position in the household, general respect for boundaries, and communication about daily needs and routines can alleviate a lot of the stress revolving around a man’s inherent laziness and a woman’s servitude. When each party feels respected, supported, and understood, each party tends to be more willing to give a little extra in order to meet their own needs as well as the needs of others.

Taking the time to thoroughly discuss the daily needs of the home, the needs that men and women share and their individual needs can help gel a household together with a great deal of harmonic energy. With everyone working toward the same goal, everything becomes easier and things are accomplished without tension, stress, and resentment. Men and women alike can ‘have it all’, but having it all comes with more responsibility and a greater range of needs to fulfill.

If you have found my article interesting, I have come across a site which is at the moment giving away a massive free Book titled Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women. I have personally found this one of the best books on the subject of Dating and Relationships and I highly recommend you read it. It’s a must read.
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posted by infomktjv on May 27

No matter how young at heart you are, as you mature you will eventually long for a longer term relationship.

Long term relationships means that you now have accepted the responsibility to stay monogamous. There is no more fooling around with other women and being on the look out for another woman, especially if you are with her.

However, being monogamous does not mean that you have lost your freedom. Freedom is in the mind. But if you feel that you have lost your freedom, you need to question if it is your woman who is the insecure one and constantly needs the re-assurance and requirement that you to be there 24/7 OR indeed you are not ready for being one hearted.

Being in a monogamous relationship is very different and special to the usual, multiple relationships. Building a true one on one bond with the woman you love is special.

From speaking to many women, I have found that women do try to change their man. But you may need to see them trying to make changes for the better, such as making us pick after ourselves. We men however, I have been told need to accept their woman as they are. We too can change them, but eventually they will become the woman that we longer have passion for. So it’s best to really leave each other alone and accept each other for who we are and how we are when we met each other.

Ask yourself if the woman you love will let you continue to have your own identity, appreciating your family and friends that you have, and not bad mouthing them. If she doesn’t, you may need to re-assess the situation and have a serious chat and think. Long term, there will be a problem if this persists.

Being a man, we all have grand dreams and plans. That’s just our nature. Does your woman support your dream? Or does she want you to constantly go out with her friends or take cooking classes with her?

Finally, one of the most important things I have found to maintain the passion in the relationship over the long term is to make sure you continue as if you are still dating. Always remember what you did when you were dating. From opening the car door for them, to the love notes and romantic candle lit dinners.

That way, passion is always alive and you will no longer be looking around for another woman to spice up your life as there is no need to.

If you have found my article interesting, I have come across a site which is at the moment giving away a massive free Book titled Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women. I have personally found this one of the best books on the subject of Dating and Relationships and I highly recommend you read it. It’s a must read.
Download it from;
www.secrets2datingsuccess.com