Men Tips

posted by infomktjv on May 19

There’s no doubt about it. Men and women are wired differently. Men know this, yet they continue to use the same, ineffective tactics to try to get women. What’s even more stunning is that they are surprised when those tactics don’t work. So, just what are those differences and how do they effect the way that men and women communicate?

The answers may surprise you.

American ethicist, psychologist and feminist, Carol Gilligan, details some of the more striking differences between the sexes in her book “In a Different Voice.” In one section she discusses how males and females approach a problem and make decisions. Generally, males make their decisions based on the ethics of justice while females use the ethics of care. This goes back to the beliefs that men are more logical and women are more emotional, but takes it a step further.

This is very important when communicating with a woman. While men are more results oriented and prefer a more straightforward approach with the easiest route to the end, women operate in a different manner. Women tend to communicate in a manner that is conducive and focused on building and salvaging relationships.

Now, when you are trying to determine just how this information will help you communicate better with women, consider this: If you talk to a woman in her language, on her level, don’t you think that you will get better results than you would if you just forged ahead doing your own thing? Of course you would!

Women are also more inclined to talk things out than a man would. Women want to resolve conflicts, or perceived conflicts, by discussing various aspects of the situation. They want to rehash the topic over and over until it has been worked over and wrung dry of useful information. Men, on the other hand, tend to clam up, preferring to refrain from discussing the issue, or “saying their piece” and then moving on. This can cause problems between men and women because the man shuts down and the woman feels neglected.

The smart man will take the time to listen to the woman in his life. He should not only listen, but respond to what she says. Ask questions, insert comments and create some open dialogue. This will not only fulfill the woman’s need to communicate, but it will also get issues out in the open and on the table so that they can be dealt with and faced. This could work to your advantage, particularly if you are in a relationship that you value.

Men and women are different, for sure. But if you are watchful and pay attention to the clues that the women around you are dropping, you can learn how to communicate effectively with them. Just try to mimic them, discretely of course, but emulate their body posture, look them in the eye and pay attention to little cues that she will give. Ask questions, talk with her and show that you care. When you meet her on her level with her communication style, you will have her attention - and possibly even her devotion.

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posted by infomktjv on May 19

Who says that women are attracted to looks, money and fame?
In fact, most women care most about how we can make them feel. It has nothing to do with looks, money or fame. We do not need to be a Brad Pitt or George Clooney. We have been given what we have so use it! We should focus on our strengths not our perceived weaknesses. Notice how I mentioned perceived. Because that is really what it is, just perception rather than fact.

In fact, we should be quite relieved. We have it easy. When a man is not physically attracted to a woman, there is not much she can do to change things. But it is always possible for a man who don’t have the looks, the height, the wealth, the fame to make a women feel the same way we do when we see a physically beautiful women. No that’s cool!

Women have been pre-conditioned from early childhood to respond automatically to different men who have certain personalities, their communication skills, (yes I did say communication, so make sure this is brushed up, they will notice!), their masculinity and direction in life, and not just YOUR looks. Phew, that’s a relief for those who perceive themselves not to be up to a standard you have set for yourself. Don’t get me wrong though, certain women do pre-judge based on initial looks but in the long term, EVERY women is attracted to a magnetic personality and not just looks.

In short, there is really two types of personalities who want to strive for because these provide the most attraction to women.

They are that of a Lover AND/OR a Provider. You can be either one, but to strive for the most attraction in both the short term and long term, I believe it’s important you strive to become both, even though one will usually dominate over the other!

Why you may ask?
Firstly, let me first describe what each one is first.
The Lover personality types are those who can attract women that want to have sex with you very quickly, if not even immediately. The so called one strike dates.
The Provider personality types attract the women who ultimately withhold sex to ensure that they first feel secure in knowing that you are the long term loyal type. These women don’t necessarily need to withhold sex until marriage but will give you a good long run before sex is even considered.

Now, can you imagine becoming both. Think about the amount of women you can attract. Like men, all women love sex, even though most don’t admit it or show it. But, if you could set yourself apart by also giving them the feeling that you too can also be a provider of stability, wow, then you have got them all for life, provided that’s what you are seeking for in the first place though!

In the mean time, Good Luck!

If you have found my article interesting, I have come across a site which is at the moment giving away a massive free Book titled Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women. I have personally found this one of the best books on the subject of Dating and Relationships and I highly recommend you read it. It’s a must read.
Download it from;
www.secrets2datingsuccess.com