Men Tips

posted by pcorral on May 13

Know this right now! All your fears about rejection are irrational. You look at a beautiful women across the room and think: What if she has a boyfriend near by who is going to want to kick my ass, what if she yells and makes a big scene in front of everyone, what if she tells every other girl in town what a looser I was for trying to talk to he? These are ridiculous scenarios many have flash through their mind before approaching a women. Now ask yourself if you know anyone who has ever had this happen to them (who wasn’t being insulting or crude). Talk to the guys who have overcome this fear of approaching and they will tell you, after hundreds of approaches these embarrassing scenarios have NEVER happened to them.

The crazy thing is that we have some how come to think that every woman on the planet is a last woman on earth. Women are not scares! In fact there are more than 150 million women in the United States alone! Who cares about not getting one number or even getting blown off by one girl or 10 or 100 or 1000 for that matter!

This leads us to an important principle: there is no such thing as rejection there is only feedback! Learning the game is intuitive, you have to put away result driven thinking and focus on the process. This is how the game is learned rapidly! If a woman doesn’t respond to something, learn from it and take that knowledge into the next interaction. It is called the game for a reason. Women think of it as a game and so should you. Its fun, light hearted, so who cares about outcome as long as you’re learning and enjoying yourself.

Go into social interaction with no intentions. Just have fun and meet people. Before talking to anyone tell yourself, “I do not need approval from anyone. I am just here to have a good time and socialize, she may be lucky enough for me to take an interest in her.”

All that said, When you start interacting with women you are interested in, having the knowledge to attract and connect with them is an art form, make no mistake about it. As you learn about the game you will realize the things you have unwittingly done right in the past that allowed you to get the girl. You will also learn all the mistakes you have been making that caused you to lose the girl more often than not. Now that you can put your irrational fears away and change from a result driven line of thinking to a process learning way of thinking, go out and have yourself more fun that you ever thought possible.

Many more articles about how to attract more quality women into your life are available at:
www.gentlemansdossier.com

posted by pcorral on May 13

In this article we will briefly cover six different types of openers: functional, opinion, situational, no opener, screening, and direct. Now these are some great examples from the mystery method camp, so listen up.

The opinion opener is a random question, usually involving relationships or something light hearted. For example: “My friend John over there just broke up with his girlfriend. How long do you think he should wait to start dating again?” It’s important to know that your openers should come from your own life.

The situational opener is what ever the moment offers. You’re asking a question (what’s that drink?) or a random statement (I like this music). This kind of opener is a nonchalant opener deliver the same way you might comment to someone you have no interest in.

Functional openers are easy and low risk. You just have to fallow up well and steer the conversation some were fun. These are asking directions, asking for the time, standard stuff like that. Now to add another dimension to this you can transition into a flirty conversation. You can ask for the time and then just interrupt the women’s answer and say “I have a watch, I just wanted to come over and flirt a while.” This is a fun and brilliant transition from the guys at pickup 101.

In situations were the energy is high and people mingle openly you don’t really have to have an opener. You can simply walk up and start talking like you were in the middle of a conversation, or simply say hi.

The screening openers set the tone that your screening her by asking something like “is there more to you than meets the eye?” Your intentions are fairly clear and that is ballsy and creates the context that you are the selector not the selected.

Then we have the direct opener. You walk up and let them know what your thinking. “you’re the women I most wanted to meet here.” Or “Your cute.” These openers are pure confidence and absolute magic when you pull it off. Do you remember that witty transition from the functional opener I mentioned above? That kind of stuff works great in a direct opener as well!

You know six types of openers now. Sit down and think of some for each category that fits your life’s experience and personality. Always remember there is a lot more to successfully opening a conversation with a women than what you say, so don’t go nuts over this. To learn the vital points that will greatly increase your success with striking up a conversation with a women, like rooting, time constraints, and when and were to use different types of openers, keep reading and learning through experience.

Many more articles about how to attract more quality women into your life are available at:
www.gentlemansdossier.com

posted by pcorral on May 13

Have you ever observed another guy, maybe a friend of yours who isn’t tall rich, or good looking but seems to have some kind of power over women’s mind? Its puzzled me in the past to see that they don’t say or do anything very different from what I said and did, yet they had a steady stream of hot women in their lives, so what the hell was it?

I cannot stress enough that the underlying beliefs and attitudes about yourself and women is of the most important. Women’s notorious intuition can sense when you’re just acting confident, and when you actually are. How can we develop a true confidence and attitude that will have women begging to be our little mattress kittens?

“The attitude is the charm, balls, and cool confidence to have a women get annoyed and frustrated when first meeting you and for you to just smile and say, I think she likes me.” -David D

Most guys want the mystical words that will have a women falling for them instantly. A simple “hi” can be a great pick up line when spoken with the right attitude behind it! This leads to the most overlooked aspects of ones attitude: your body language, facial expression, and tone of voice. These subtleties can convey more about you than the words you speak!

Humor and confidence is at the top of every girls list, but what kind of humor projects confidence? Have a little fun with some friendly teasing and making fun mixed in with regular conversation. She’s used to guys kissing up to her, here you are setting yourself apart from the pack having a laugh with her in a way that shows confidence and humor!

Be a leader in your life. This means you have direction, know what you want and actually doing what it takes to get it. Being focused on your goals is very attractive to women. No woman wants to date a lost little boy. Being a leader also means you call your own shots, don’t just march with the other lemmings in any social situation.

Another principal to a winning attitude is never ever whine about anything! No matter how small or large don’t you dare “vent” to a women you want to attract! Think about the leading men in movies women drool over. In the face of certain death and insurmountable odds the hero has a cavalier disregard for the situation. They always stay calm and know what to do.

A very important aspect of your attitude is enjoying your interactions with women without being overly concerned about the outcome. Having passion and enthusiasm in life is endlessly seductive. However, caring too much too soon about what a women thinks or getting laid can lead to a total loss of attraction.

These are just a few basic principles you need to keep ever present in your mind when interacting with women. Now if you are like me your wondering “how do I express these qualities outwardly for women to see?” This article would soon turn into a full-length book if I were to go into such details. Keep reading and learning form experience.

Many more articles about how to attract more quality women into your life are available at:
www.gentlemansdossier.com

posted by pcorral on May 13

I think David D puts it as clearly and accurately as possible “women don’t make sense” He’s not being a women hater, he is just stating what should be obvious to us all by now: attraction is NOT a logical process, and women are not attracted in the way men think they should be.

To become better at attracting more quality women into our lives the first change has to be in our own thinking! This shift in thinking is a big one for many men; it may even require a small leap in faith. The important thing to remember when trying to understand any of this is: all that matters is that it works!

The traditional dating game is all wrong for both men and women. As guys we always complain about spending a lot of money on gifts and taking women out who are largely unappreciative! We feel this way for good reason, women, while interested in wealth and status, will not magically find you desirable if you buy them a bunch of stuff with your vast fortune. Women want to feel attraction for you. They don’t care about how much you give or spend. Beautiful women feel an understandable contempt for the pathetic little boys who try to suck up to them and buy their affection. Trying to spend money to gain her affections is manipulative and makes you seem of lower value and unconfident in yourself. Ouch!

From this you should take two very important lessons. The first, attraction is not logical, and second, women are more interested in how you make them FEEL than how much money or status you have.

The question becomes, where do I begin in changing my thinking to become more desirable to women? An attitude and way of thinking that lays beneath every interaction you have with women and will make you more attractive to them is this: you are the selector NOT the selected! This means you have standards and will not put up with second-class behavior from any women. This belief changes everything!

To recap the main points you should take form this writing are: attraction is not logical, women are more interested in how you make them feel, and you are the selector not the selected. I should also note that these concepts, while very important just begin to scratch the surface of this subject. If you would like to understand more about how to meet and attract the women you really want keep reading and learning from experience.

Many more articles about how to attract more quality women into your life are available at:
www.gentlemansdossier.com

posted by pcorral on May 13

What kind of girl is your ideal mate? It’s amazing that most men do not stop and think about this. It may be because most guys simply take what they can get when it comes to women. The good thing is, your learning the kind of game that will create options for you, a lot of options, so you better take a moment and think about your ideal women. You can go as far as writing down a brief description, just to clarify and drive the point home. Although some of us prefer blonde girls or petite girls or whatever, I suggest writing down particular personality traits like intelligence, adventurous spirit, etc. You never know, while your looking for your hot petite blonde you come across a gorgeous brunette that embodies everything you truly you want.

This exercise is important because it encourages you to have standards. Having standards is an important belief that under lays all your interactions with women. You should have standards and never put up with second-class behavior from women.

The other essential element of “inner game” you have to get together is yourself!
Ask yourself this question: “If I were the type of women who I would like to attract, what would make me want to be with me?” Then do as much as you can to improve yourself. You don’t have to be a men’s health cover model, but get yourself in reasonably good shape. You don’t have to drop a fortune on Gucci loafers, but develop your personal sense of style and dress well. Be well groomed, your haircut, neck and face shaven, teeth, breath, etc. This should be a point of personal pride, taking care of yourself doesn’t mean turning into a “metrosexual” and having more beauty products than a women. What it does mean is not leaving the house looking like a caveman! Women notice details men will often let slide! So don’t let it slide!
When you take care of yourself, you look better and feel more confident. This enhances your self-image.

Beyond these details you should take note of three major aspects of your life. This could be your profession, your favorite activity or hobby, anything that you identify strongly with. Write them down and learn how to talk about them in an interesting way. When asked what you do for work, don’t give your job title. Instead, tell them what you do in a compelling way! Another short list worth writing down is at least three personality traits you like about yourself. This could be intelligence, thoughtfulness, adventurous, etc. Then think about at least three experiences in your life that illustrates these characteristics. These experiences will make good stories to tell that will allow you to show these sides of yourself!

Inner game is often over looked for the immediately applicable tactics of outer game! If you learn proper technique and your words still fall on deaf ears, the missing link is your self-image, attitude, and confidence that are the underlying basis for anything you do outwardly when interacting with women! I highly suggest developing yourself in your personal goals and inner game concerning women and dating as much as your outer game!

Many more articles about how to attract more quality women into your life are available at:
www.gentlemansdossier.com