Men Tips

You look up from your drink at the bar or coffee at the bookstore and there she is, a beautiful women and another lost opportunity. How on earth do you approach a stranger with the intentions of getting her number or taking her home and start a conversation that seems natural and confident?

It is a fact of life: being proactive is key to success. A man can’t sit around and wait on luck to bring him anything worthwhile in life and that includes women! So unless we learn the vital skill of approaching women NOTHING will happen.

The first two elements of a successful approach are the most often overlooked. These elements are your attitude and body language. I will not go into the proper attitude here because it is a different topic all together. Body language is something worth mentioning briefly. Think about how you’re standing, your tone, and facial expressions when you are talking to a stranger or acquaintance. Taking a similar approach with women is far better than what most guys do. DO NOT walk up behind or directly in front of women squared off face to face with her. This is confrontational and uncomfortable. Instead try facing the same direction and turning your head to talk to her. This allows you to stand closer and seem casual. Just this one tip will make a huge difference in your approaches.

Now your thinking: “I’m standing next to her, what do I say?” Again think about your tone of voice and facial expressions first. How would you ask a person you had no romantic interest in for the time? You are casual and confident, positioned as if you could walk away at any moment. This body language shows you are calm confident and not needy.

If you have done all the above, a simple question or observation about the situation or even a simple hi will be all the words you need to comfortably start a conversation with a women.

Now as mentioned before Successfully striking up a conversation with women is much more involved than what you say. Your body language is just as important! The types of openers you use work better for different situations and carry a different risk reward profile. There are also other elements like time constraints, context, and transitioning into conversation, and how to open without any kind of opener or line at all. So keep reading and learning through experience.

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This can be intimidating as all hell! There is a HOT girl you would love to talk to but she’s surrounded by a group of people, some may even be other guys. What to do now? All kinds of questions come to mind: is one of these guys is her boyfriend, are other people in the group going to be pissed if I talk to her, will the whole group just blow me off, and if they don’t, how do I get some one on one time? The fact is most attractive women will travel in groups, so this is a scenario you must get comfortable with. As guys we have to be proactive when it comes to meeting women. If we are not approaching a women simply because she is in a group of people we will lose the opportunity to meet a lot of women!

The good thing is The Mystery Method has a whole skill set for interacting with groups of people. The fact is most hot women travel in groups. You shouldn’t wait until they’re alone because it’s too predatory. The first principle of “group theory” is talk to the whole group! You should try to charm almost everyone in the group but the target of your desires. If there men in the group, have fun and talk to them first! You work the group like you would an individual. Use an opinion opener and get people responding. Then jump into witty banter mode and have some fun with everybody. Only after you have won over the men first, and the other women in the group can you gradually start to pay more attention to the girl you want.

Now this is a basic overview of course. You have to manipulate group dynamics in a way that makes everyone like you, keeps them engaged, while building attraction in the eyes of your target at the same time, seemingly without trying. How to pull all this off is beyond the scope of this article and deserves more study.

But I can give you one more tip about groups. After the group has accepted you, casually ask how every one knows each other. This is how you figure out who is single and who is not!

These tips are enough to put you in situations other guys will marvel at. You will make a lot of friends around town in the process (building your status in women’s eyes) and have a shot at a lot more hot women and their friends!

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Taking attraction and rapport to the first kiss may seem like a big shift of gears. By fallowing the physical progression covered in a previous article, getting physical with a woman should be gradual and natural. When it comes to the first kiss many guys are a little freaked out. They don’t want to be rejected or make her feel uncomfortable by being too forward. Kissing her doesn’t have to be this way. Sure sometimes the bold move is pure magic but what we are going to cover here is how to make the first kiss smooth and natural.

The first kiss is just a step in an emotional and physical connection between the two of you that should have begun the moment you met. She should at least be comfortable being led by the hand, hugged or held close by you first. As your physical connection progresses through these early stages your emotional connection should progress as well. You should have built attraction enough to want to talk one on one. You should also be able to connect on a more personal level and be able to show her your interested in her for more than just her looks. This is a very simple break down of an emotional and physical progression we have no time to go into further detail here. Just remember, a kiss should feel like the next comfortable step instead of a bold move.

There are many fun unique ways to pull off the first kiss. One of the most practical and sensual ways to initiate the first kiss is stroking the bottom of her hair or even sweeping it aside out of her face. If she enjoys this she’s into you. Now here is were things get good. You lean in and while holding her close you smell her shoulders then pull back for a moment. Then lean in again smelling her neck and ears. This builds intense sexual tension. Finally lean in and give her a kiss and pull back. This is the type of progression that is ideal for intimate one on one setting.

For more lighthearted encounters in higher energy situations. A classic simply asking, “Do you want to kiss me?” If she says yes, kiss her. If she says maybe, say to her “lets find out” and kiss her. If she says no, say, “I didn’t say you could, it just looked like you had something on your mind.” The beauty of this approach is its cocky and bold without being too physically forward and if she says no, you get to have fun by playfully busting on her as if she’s the aggressor.

You have two fun ways to get the kiss in two different types of situations. If you read up, you will find that getting the first kiss can be a very fun game that builds great tension and chemistry.

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We all know women enjoy sex as much as we do. The problem is women are constantly judged and programmed from a very young age that women are not suppose to jump into bed with a man too fast. You will hear terms like “token resistance” and “anti-slut defense” What these terms mean is she is putting up resistance because she doesn’t want to feel cheap, but she want desperately for you to ease the transitions and make her feel good about her decision to sleep with you.

Now, unfortunately in these times it is necessary to mention that no, means, no and stop means stop! Don’t go do something stupid and say I told you to do it. There I covered myself, moving on…

The first thing you should remember is solid game up until the point of physical intimacy is key. Anticipation and sexual tension is half the fun, especially for women. Principles of sexual communication, physical escalation, and taking two steps forward and one step back are all key elements that lead you to sex. These are different subjects worthy of independent study. (See works cited for more on these subjects). What we want to cover now is the last moments before sex.

Elevate the level of intimacy gradually. Don’t just go strait for her breasts and try to rip her top off. Its called foreplay, you should try it some time, trust me women love it. Ok, all kidding aside, Take frequent brakes when building up to higher levels of physical intimacy. This builds incredible sexual tension and instead of seeming too forward, she will want you to reengage with here. These are universal principles found in the writings of all the top gurus worth learning from.

Now, when women give token resistance, like stopping briefly and saying “we shouldn’t be doing this” This is token resistance. IF she says, “No, stop” she means it. If you get token resistance, you can act as if she is seducing you by saying, “your right” and continue kissing her, or “I’m sorry you just do that to me” And continue to kiss her.

So, remember, build the tension over time and when it gets close to time for sex, take it slower and build the sexual tension into a fevered pitch until she is begging for it. Now there are several logistical considerations and situations like getting her home and into the bedroom that need to be handled with finesse. So keep reading and learning and most importantly learning through experience.

Many more articles about how to attract more quality women into your life are available at:
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As I have said before, the popular ideas about dating are all screwed up. A first date isn’t about impressing a girl with expensive dinners and asking boring interview questions! It is possible to be more interesting and spend less money while building more attraction with a woman.

The first thing you need to do is get rid of the boring job interview questions! Don’t ask her about school, work, or were she grew up like every other chump she’s ever dated. A couple fun things to talk about instead: background and history about an interesting part of town or common interest, Anything superficial to do with pop culture, music, movies, fashion, celebrities etc., A really fun conversation topic is fake psychological analysis about her or society in general. “you seem kinda quite and nice but it’s the quite ones you have to watch out for, under the surface your probably…”

Now that you have some fun ideas about conversation you need to go and do something different from your typical date too! Try going to an interesting part of town like cool historical places, markets, shopping areas with a cool mix of shops to check out and talk about. This is an activity not a date. The great thing is you don’t have to buy anything, your just walking talking and having a good time. If you want to stop and talk over a cup of coffee, why not, its cool quite and cheap! Don’t be a chump and drop a bunch of money on a fancy dinner for a girl your just getting to know!

If you are going to spend a little money on a first date at least make it something different and fun. Instead of a dinner at a restaurant, prepare a picnic and go to a park or beach. You can also do something active together like take a bike ride or dance lessons. Check your local paper and see if there are any local festivals to go to! When you really get to thinking about it, the possibilities are endless. No matter what you decide to do, make sure of a few things first.

Planning for multi-venues is a great way to make her feel like she has gotten to know you better in a shorter amount of time. Just be sure in plan the logistics ahead of time so nothing unexpected screws up your date. Also take care of reservations or tickets if the date calls for it. You should also plan your dates when you will feel at your best. Avoid scheduling a date after a stressful meeting with your boss, it will show and your date will not enjoy it!

Ok, lets recap: Talk about fun light hearted stuff and NOT the typical job interview questions, Second: go do something interesting instead of the typical dinner date! You will have more fun and build more attraction! Not to mention save a lot of money.

Many more articles about how to attract more quality women into your life are available at:
www.gentlemansdossier.com